I'm sick of being seen as a sexual predator because I am a man...

Imnotmrabut · 2017-04-27T13:53:03+00:00

In the UK The incidence of being labelled Paedophile is more frequently linked to Disabled men than able-bodied men - and it's linked to Hate Crime and Murder of disabled men.

Katherine Quarmby's book "Scapegoat" (2011) showed this and yet her work for a decade prior was ignored where is showed that Vast Majority of Hate crime was against single disabled men in social housing with false claims of paedophilia.

The venue is most often Social Housing - the perpetrators-instigator are most often single women with children. They use Female/Mother Privilege to justify scapegoating with the view they are only protecting heir children and so anything is justified. This insane mindset can and does spiral out of control at an alarming rate leading to damage and death.

The hate crime is usually low level with name calling, public abuse, rumour mongering and low-level attacks upon property (Dog Shit on Windows, Dog shit through a letter box, Graffiti, Damage to Property outside of the home, arson of bins and vehicles).

It can very rapidly escalate to high level with Group attack upon property with massive increases in property damage, group threats of physical violence outside the home, Home invasion and threats of violence within the property, Assault of all forms and of course Murder.

The biggest risk factors if females instigating increases of violence and utilising male partners. The female with children is most likely to use a bed partner who has no links to her children - with the implied reward of long-term sex and family setting for acting against the Scapegoated target.

The Bijan Ebrahimi case in Bristol is a perfect storm of Socially Enabled and Sanctioned Hate By females, Using men to kill an innocent Disabled Guy They labeled as Paedo ..... just because they could.

The killers are in prison - Police have been prosecuted, but the females who instigated and pushed the violence are still walking free and have never even been cautioned by Police.

Police officers jailed over Bijan Ebrahimi murder case - Disabled refugee killed by a neighbour in Bristol had repeatedly warned that his life was in danger

functionalsociopathy · 2017-04-27T14:02:41+00:00

As advise: Try working your way to having a resting "mildly annoyed" face. Not like something just happened to annoy you but an "I'm 90% done with people's shit today." And then break into a forced smile and a friendly tone when interacting with people. If someone asks you why you act that way tell them that you tried being a friendly person, but it didn't work. It should prevent people from thinking you're a perv. People (women in particular) in the US vilify men, the only real choice you have in the matter is which particular type of villain they see you as.

Derrythe · 2017-04-27T16:29:30+00:00

Father of 2 here, with my son on at least 5 different occasions, I've been questioned if I'm the dad, what I'm doing, why I'm talking him to the toilet and where did those bruises come from.

My daughter, I've actually been threatened with the police for taking her into the men's to change her on the counter.

It's pretty fucking rough for dad's.

-redditardation- · 2017-04-27T13:06:36+00:00

I believe this is what they would call 'male privilege'.

justc25 · 2017-04-27T15:25:42+00:00

My kindergarten teacher, who was male and a fucking amazing teacher who helped me all the way through school, was getting towards retirement by time I graduated high school and with nothing else to do I went on as a teachers assistant. The faculty knew me and knew I had an interest in teaching so they were fine with it.

I'm not your most photogenic looking male, but I feel like I blend in enough. Around all the kids though parents just weren't having it. I had seen my teacher go through this his whole career and the I was a victim of it as well. I stuck with it for his last year but I had way too many run ins with parents about me being around their children that I would never go back to that environment. Especially not with how bad it seems to have gotten.

Blutarg · 2017-04-27T16:28:44+00:00

Thanks, feminism.

Rethgil · 2017-04-27T20:59:07+00:00

Think what its doing to our young boys growing up being told this every day. 'Toxic masculinity'. 'Potential rapists'. Brainwashing them into hating themselves on many levels without even realising. No wonder so many grow up confused or with problems.

poorpersonality · 2017-04-27T15:26:50+00:00

Pretty young girls, perhaps from 10 years onward, do that, too. They might, like, see you from the corner of their eye but then have to turn their head to see what kind of a threat you possibly impose. When I was young and pretty they didn't do that - or perhaps they did but I thought it was sexual in nature. Boys don't do that. Perhaps it's genetic?

Ziiphyr · 2017-04-27T16:38:38+00:00

I'm 18 and already feel this, I'm in a church choir and go to youth group and such, and whenever I try to get to know some of the younger girls (I try and get to know the boys and girls equally but no one notices me trying to be friends with the boys) I have been told through the grapevine that people are gossiping that I like little girls, and it's very discouraging and pathetic, I try to teach and be friends with both younger boys and girls because I remember that was a hard time in my life so I try to give wisdom and be a mentor because I didn't have one, it's terrible, I feel bad for trying to do good

IndyDude11 · 2017-04-27T13:01:57+00:00

I hear that changing genders is pretty hot right now.

Adwhym · 2017-04-27T18:48:18+00:00

I saw a post on facebook that took all willpower not for me to comment on. It was a video of Biden speaking about men who rape women. He was being very condescending and implying that it was hard for men to understand that if a women does not consent, then it is rape.
For me these types of narratives make my blood boil, it's overused and yet people still think that men are having trouble understanding what is rape. The comments were even worse saying things like "wow preach!" "Biden is the hero we need!" "why is this complicated for men? Rape is rape!" mostly women writing these comments.
I hate the strawman fallacy that all men or most men are incapable of understanding rape and that most men will rape someone in their life. It is simply not true, it's like if we held conferences like these in condescending tones saying not to kill people. We know that criminals who commit crimes like murder or rape are not your typical person.
Therefore, holding conferences like these are useless and ultimately just paints men in a light that is simply misleading. There are many feminists i know that are legitimately on the side of "men need to be educated about their privilege and about sexual assault". Most can't even conceive how men get raped too, by women. It is creating a culture of misandry in my opinion. Maybe not the "rape education" alone, but it is another straw on the camel's back.
/rant

*edit: added paragraphs

VaguelyFamiliarMan · 2017-04-27T15:18:02+00:00

I don't know what it is about me, I shower, I shave, but I seem to often get looks that I am doing something "creepy".

It's as natural for a man to have a beard on his face as it is for him to have hair on his head. Beards shouldn't have "creepy" connotations.

FinitumX · 2017-04-27T12:49:41+00:00

What is the children's rights subreddit?

newdude90 · 2017-04-28T19:32:20+00:00

I'm a comparatively handsome and friendly man, and yet I still feel like I creep people out when I walk down the street sometimes. To be fair though, men are literally the most dangerous thing in the world to women, so I think we have to be ok with some women being wary of us sometimes, as long as our rights aren't trampled on. They feel that way for their own self preservation.

illyafromuncle · 2017-04-27T15:00:28+00:00

Just have an infant with you, that looks like you.

I would be frightened of the day that my daughter is a teenager and is out with me....except she looks just like me, still expecting it though.

Sw3dishCh3f · 2017-04-27T20:24:59+00:00

Honest question, how do you know that these women are "uneasy" or "uncomfortable"? Are they doing something to give you this idea?

mwobuddy · 2017-04-27T21:26:41+00:00

Then Transition.

razorts · 2017-04-27T22:06:33+00:00

you fall in 80% of the men women wont date if they could help it. Dont pay attention almost 100% of women not worth dating, you wont lose that much.

Title	I'm sick of being seen as a sexual predator because I am a man...
Author	Awwtist
Upvotes	191
Comments	42
Date	April 27, 2017 12:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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