Nobody takes the fact the I was raped serious.

TheThng · 2015-08-06T03:39:22+00:00

The idea that "youre a man, you must've wanted it" is so disgusting. And all the comments people make when there is a woman teacher that rapes a high school boy that say: "where was she when i was in high school? lololololol" dont help either.

They don't know the torment of trying to tell a traumatic experience only to be written off completely.

I was sexually assaulted at a club, which turned out to be a gay club (long story), but after I told my friends, some girls included, they made fun of me saying that I was gay.

I can't say I know completely what you are going through, but I can empathize.

blueXcat · 2015-08-06T05:53:41+00:00

I hate how society treats male rape differently. Geez you were 7, how could you have liked it.

I'm really sorry. You might want to talk about it with survivors, you'll find more support.

I'm one, but I'm a woman. I don't think the experience was the same; but I was told he was a teen and not experienced. I wasn't taken seriously and it hurts more inside than what happened.

Know that you are not alone, other men and opened women are out there, able to understand.

People who judge you aren't worth anything.

And don't be to proud to get help.

azazelcrowley · 2015-08-06T09:05:08+00:00

Sorry to hear that OP. We take it seriously though. If you want people to talk to, we're here.

2015-08-06T08:52:06+00:00

Damn, that's messed up. Who thinks being molested by somebody bigger and stronger is enjoyable?

MRSPArchiver · 2015-08-06T03:11:02+00:00

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Scimitar66 · 2015-08-06T12:23:38+00:00

All I can say is that I'm sincerely sorry for your experience, and I hope you can get the support you need some day.

Rethgil · 2015-08-06T17:51:54+00:00

Had pretty much the same experience and I have to say, my main comment is to remember this; you are a brave and good person for opening up to someone you trusted to be a friend. I am too scared to do so for fear of ridicule. Especially in this culture of reverse sexism against men. Be proud of yourself because you and your views on the matter are what really matter and what will hopefully ultimately help you carry on with life. Sounds to me like youre heading in a good direction, even though it must be painful.

abasicwhitegirl · 2015-08-06T03:58:46+00:00

First "I have to see her ever Friday". No you don't. You are 18 and can write any one off for any reason. No matter what may have happened if you don't want to be near someone that walk away. You have this right

Second, if this is keeping you up and causing you pain seek a professional. Their are people trained to help in this situation and understand more than us or those around you that say a man can not feel pain from this. You say you have never told an adult. I think you would feel better if you did.

Third, don't feel that you should keep this hidden from you parents or other because of you sister "experimenting". A raped person owns these rapist NOTHING. Not loyalty, not forgiveness, not sympathy. The fault is 100% on them and you did nothing wrong to feel bad about.

Also why is your name abasicwhitegirl?

Blutarg · 2015-08-06T06:56:38+00:00

You have to tell someone or it will keep eating at you.

abasicwhitegirl · 2015-08-06T12:55:32+00:00

Thank you very much, it means alot to have people to be able to talk to. I was scared last night that my post would get a lot of criticism, and that I'd have to delete it, but thank you all of you for being here.

Rethgil · 2015-08-06T18:02:51+00:00

Made an earlier comment, but want to add. Many survivors of abuse, particularly when its from someone they know, suffer even further as some have fears they had some type of enjoyment of it. The self loathing and confusion this can create is awful. The public simplification is that "if you had any mixed feelings it was your fault or wasnt abuse". Such comments are rarely ever said about women sufferers now. It used to be said a lot, and is one of thr views that has now changed. But not for men. Now women abuse men by making the same claim women fought so hard to stop.

Regardless of mixed feelings of the awful experience, it should be considered that the feelings may have arisen simply because of being a child, perhaps an emotionally neglected one, who may have been thankful for a sense of attention. A child does not know the difference between healthy attention and unhealthy, inappropriate attention. Especially if it has been denied the healthy kind. Abuse always involves complex feelings But it was something done to you when you were not fully emotionally developed and thus not equipped to make your own choices or know how to cope with the event. That's simple abuse, whatever any other people may choose to believe.

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2015-08-06T19:08:56+00:00

You have my sympathy and I hope you can find a male therapist to listen to you.

I hope you can tell your parents if you think that can help get your mom off your back to be "nice" to the sexual predatory molesting bitch.

I hope she drowns in remorse when she's rotting in old age and you aren't there to help her.

Society's double standard on MGM and sexual abuse of males sickens me.

philosarapter · 2015-08-06T19:14:40+00:00

Man I'm really sorry to hear that happened to you, that's awful especially as it came from someone who is supposed to be family to you. I'd encourage you to get a therapist, and talk to them about it. Unfortunately lots of people are still brainwashed into believing men enjoy sex under all circumstances, which we know is just blatantly false.

garglemesh42 · 2015-08-06T07:31:58+00:00

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Mkcn97 · 2015-08-06T07:07:54+00:00

I don't understand how this is rape (and yes, I would say the same if it was a girl), this is molestation.

Title	Nobody takes the fact the I was raped serious.
Author	abasicwhitegirl
Upvotes	65
Comments	55
Date	August 6, 2015 3:10 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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