SHE FELL ASLEEP And didn't show up for the 4th date

Ricklogical · 2018-06-01T18:20:07+00:00

If she had a date with Toni Mahfud she would have started getting ready 4 hours before the date to look perfect for him. She does not see you as enough of a man for her. Upgrade your SMV

creating_my_life · 2018-06-01T19:12:02+00:00

This, gentlemen, is what abundance mentality looks like. For her.

I'm 20 years old...looking for a long term relationship

Why?

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-06-01T18:25:00+00:00

Next.

But how much escalating did you do on the first three dates? There’s no reason not to fuck before the third date, even on the first if you’re doing it right.

FemtoG · 2018-06-01T21:40:57+00:00

First of all, you've already lost. "I am looking for a long term relationship" rofl you are 20. Get a life.

I say mental next, but reality keep in touch. Just tread carefully from here on out. Consider anything you get with her a bonus, but obviously you've learned to never have expectation of any kind. I +1 the idea of inviting her to a group thing. Women really really respect social proofing.

She IS a 9/10. As much as everyone here likes to pretend, facts are facts. She is a 9/10, and everything that comes with that (negative and positive). She is the female equivalent of a rockstar in his prime. But putting trust or any genuine connection with a 9/10 is a horrific idea. Just be very cool, very casual, and very gradual. Acting "cold" or "passive anger butthurt" about shit will only make you look pathetic. Think carefully about how you can stand out from other men in her reality. Her world is guaranteed to be filled with butthurt whiny men.

It always cracks me up when young men try to "measure up" or "be the man" around hot girls in their prime. You can bullshit all you want, but if the girl is genuinely hot, she is experiencing a reality that is completely out of this world and different than you, as a young shitty poor man, could understand. It is a power that you, as man, will only begin to get a whiff of when you are age 30-38, at least 8/10, with at least $1million net worth that you use a good portion of to show off, AND you have a good career and good social life.

I think it's better to just be genuine, to take the situation as it is, and just be chill about it. She will be swarmed by men ages 15-60, men with all kinds of power, money, connections, looks, etc. But a rich powerful old man still has droopy salt and pepper balls. You really have no choice but to be you, and hope she likes whatever "niche" you fill in the male spectrum.

I think everyone should try a relationship with a 9/10 extrovert, just to learn and get that experience under your belt. I dated one for like 3 months. She was not only 9/10, but also 9/10 personality (as many of them can be, since they don't have the crippling self doubt and awkward low self esteem masked by a shitty brave feminist front that 6-8/10s typically have. 7-8s are the worst).

Just keep in mind and respect the fact that she is an apex female in her prime. It's something you can't bullshit around as easily as pick up artists might make you believe. There are 100 of you, opining for her in the exact same way.

Terdmuffin · 2018-06-01T18:21:31+00:00

Soft next.

trytobiz · 2018-06-01T18:28:04+00:00

Why are you looking for an LTR? How has she proven to be LTR worthy? Having monogamy as the goal due to having a scarcity mindset is not the way an LTR should be established.

On the 3 dates you have been on with her, how far have you escalated/kinoed her? Soft next her. Initiate 3-5 days later, tell her you were busy, set up another meet. If you don't fuck her in this meet, hard next.

boy_named_su · 2018-06-01T19:28:39+00:00

Have some goddam self-respect and ghost

infamous3238 · 2018-06-01T21:14:41+00:00

She wasn’t sleeping, she was sucking on Chad’s cock. Soft next. Text her in two weeks and give her one more chance. Otherwise you’ll sound needy/desperate.

2018-06-01T20:24:46+00:00

Have you fucked her yet?

Cos if things are actually going well, you'll have fucked her 2 dates ago

Zanford · 2018-06-01T21:22:17+00:00

She's not that interested. Bye bye. Especially if you haven't researched whether the age diff is legit in your geography.

Hard next or go stone cold and make her crawl back - casually say 'meet me at my place at time X date Y - in the event she is interested and is actually, like, narcoleptic or something, she'll show and be eager to please and make it up to you.

If not, bye bye. Do not 'meet her anywhere' or exert any iota of effort.

Remember that more dates does not automatically mean more interest from her. That's blue pill programming. If anything it's the reverse, you have to strike while the iron is hot, and later the window closes.

Wrath_of_Trump · 2018-06-01T21:27:34+00:00

Lol there's so much wrong with this, I'm just gonna say go ahead and learn on the job. There's no advice I can give you except to do what you want.

7Fig · 2018-06-01T21:46:19+00:00

You're trying your hardest to give yourself Oneitis over a a prude who hasn't and won't fuck you. If you had demonstrated any SMV she would make you a priority. You are not, move on .

Fun2badult · 2018-06-01T22:18:31+00:00

She could have simply overslept. Just play it cool, say shit happens. If she offers to make another date, then take it like nothing happened. Don’t be one of those guys getting angry and making her feel like she dodged a bullet.

MentORPHEUS · 2018-06-01T22:25:10+00:00

If she cancels but gives an immediate reschedule, it's probably OK.

If she cancels or no-shows and offers an excuse but no reschedule, it's probably her way of soft nexting you.

wheresMYsteakAt · 2018-06-02T03:55:27+00:00

What time was the date supposed to be?

2018-06-02T05:15:37+00:00

jesus. text her back you autist

TheTrenTrannyTrain · 2018-06-02T05:30:31+00:00

Set up another date, and tell her to come over to your place to cook something up for you to make it up. Then smash.

If not then you didn't waste your time.

Schhwing · 2018-06-02T07:31:51+00:00

Have you got things sexual yet? Sounds like you want to be a BB for this girl.

She might be hot but she’s played you twice now. Which means as people have said, she might not think you are man enough for her to be her lover. Ie you’re beta in her eyes.

I would let her make it up to you. Let her reestablish contact and it should be her doing something you want her to do. If she acts as if she can direct you from here and make demands, then you may want to end the relationship unless you enjoy being a lapdog to a girl.

GrandmasterHurricane · 2018-06-03T00:52:57+00:00

You already failed. The moment you start looking for a relationship. 3 dates and you invest fucked her yet. She's tired of your sickness bitch ass. She could be hanging out with real men who want to fuck her instead. You think like a woman. She's the one who should be trying for a relationship.

trytobiz · 2018-06-01T20:45:36+00:00

what the fuck? I've overslept naps before. She apologized profusely. Had she not, then it's a next. However in this case, this is a great opportunity to say "I'll let you make it up to me... ;) dinner at my place, you're cooking". If she declines, then adios.

bodybuilder98 · 2018-06-01T22:56:06+00:00

Did you kiss or at least hug on any of the first 3 dates?

I've accidentally fallen asleep before a date. It happens. Did she reschedule?

Don't next, give her one more chance.

Title	SHE FELL ASLEEP And didn't show up for the 4th date
Author	trytobiz
Upvotes	11
Comments	56
Date	June 1, 2018 6:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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