I thought I'll share some white pill advice that has helped me build my relationships with people.

I'll start off by saying, the most important thing in life are your relationships. I'm not talking about just romantic relationships. All relationships. You're business relationships. Friendships. Family. Partner. Yourself. All of these relationships give your life meaning.

I've been giving advice on r/lifeadvice for several months before coming here. I can tell you, as a general rule, those that have depressing lives tend to be the same people who have fragmented relationships. You can imagine your soul like a ball suspended in air. And what's holding you up are strands or ropes. Each rope representing a relationship you have with others...

There's always this discussion about what the meaning of life is. And there's many answers. But I believe the meta answer, which means, the answer that can represent all answers, is how good are your relationships.

I like to make 4 distinct categories of relationships. They aren't ranked. Just distinctions.

1) The relationship with yourself.

2) The relationship with kin (blood ties).

3) The relationship with others.

4) The relationship with society.

These are all abstract levels of relationships. You can create more if you're creative. But that's irrelevant to the idea.

I would argue, your goal in life is in fact, to create relationships. And the more pure and good the relationships, the better. This is why there's such a focus about romantic relationships, because in essence, it's one of the fundamental ways we build relationships.

We all hear the common advice, relationships are built on trust. And we all say that's obvious. But if it's so obvious, why do people have a hard time doing it? Well, the answer is, because building a relationship out of trust is a difficult thing to do. Being honest in life is one of the most difficult thing to do, and if you think it's easy, then you're not being honest with yourself.

The temptation to lie is always there. For example. You're going to school and there's a test tomorrow. You find that you're not prepared for the test. And maybe you caught a little cold that day. Your parents asked you if you want to stay home that day and you think to yourself... well... I am sick. And I don't want to do the test today. So why don't I just lie. A small white lie. I'll tell them I'm too sick for school and then study for the test.

Whenever something difficult in life arise, the temptation to lie and avoid responsibility is always there. And this is why people do it. When you work with your boss, or make plans with your friends, or have an argument with your spouse, the temptation to lie is always there.

So what's the argument here? Well. The argument is, if you take the hard route in life, which is to be honest and to hold the temptation at bay, you can have a good relationship.

And you might say, what's the proof? How do you know this to be true?

I've done it myself. That's the proof.

And you know it's true. Because saying the opposite, "a good relationship is built on lies", doesn't sound right.

So if you find yourself in a bad relationship, I would advise you to examine what lies are being said and what you can do about it. This is part of taking ownership for your own destiny. Don't depend on someone else to do this for you.