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The apparent problem with choice in relation to dating

August 6, 2022

There is a phenomenon of "too many choice" that has been studied in relations to the purchasing of material goods.

In these studies, they found when people are given too many choices, they tend to have these set of problems:

1) They are dissatisfied with their choice. This phenomenon takes on a "U" shape curve. Where TOO little or TOO many choices causes dissatisfaction.

2) They are paralyzed by choice. People with too many choices take longer to decide.

3) They become more selective in their choices. This is to reduce the burden of comparing all choices down to a limited set of choices.

How does this relate to the dating market? With the introduction of dating apps, selecting partners has become more of a commodity rather than a social experience. People are view more as objects with little to no empathy.

We can see all of these "too many choice" problems matching perfectly with the female dating experience on apps. Women are more and more unsatisfied with their partner. They are waiting longer and longer to get married. And they have too many filters about superficial qualities such as height and income to help reduce the choice anxiety.

I hope this post was informative and helpful in your understanding of our current dating market in the west.

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Title The apparent problem with choice in relation to dating
Author Hodgekin
Upvotes 10
Comments 8
Date August 6, 2022 3:58 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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[–]alienamongnormiesBlackPill 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The paradox of choice is legit.

Have you ever browsed through the selection on Netflix for like 30 minutes and still can't decide what to watch next?

Meanwhile back in like 1996 when I had only like 35 channels on Cable TV, I just watched TGIF on ABC. I watched Family Matters, Boy Meets World, Full House, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air or some shit. And guess what? I loved those shows. I even bought the entire DVD boxset of Boy Meets World on the cheap 7 years ago for like something crazy like 70% off.

But fast forward to 2022 and if these shows were to debut now, I probably wouldn't bother watching them. Because there is so much competition for your eye balls in 2022. The only reason why we watch those shows and buy the DVD boxsets now is because of the nostalgia from our childhood in the past.

It's the same shit with video games. We were willing to pay $50+ to play Final Fantasy on the NES back in 1990 when $50 was worth a shit load of money compared to 2022. Even though that game is a buggy piece of shit* compared to the remakes and the later Final Fantasies. But nowadays there are tons of indie JRPGs that have more content than FF1 and DQ1 that are free/freemium or cheap that generate very little revenue in 2022.

*I'm sure some old-school JRPG fans are willing to fight me on this because on the internet you gain more cred for hyping old-school RPGs and shitting on new school RPGs. But in truth, FF1 on NES was buggy as hell and rushed in development. The PS1 remake is the best version of FF1 if you want challenge and the GBA, PSP and Pixel Remaster Steam remakes are the best if you want quality of life adjustments. The Pixel Remaster Steam remake is my personal favourite. If you think the Pixel Remaster Steam remake is too easy, you can just set a personal challenge for yourself like limiting the number of Ethers you can use.

[–]WickedBiscuit 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just want to say Boy Meets World was an amazing show during my childhood

[–]WOPR-19831 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

Yep. Choice fatigue.

Woman swipes through 1,000 pictures of men. Meh. No good ones.

A dessert choice is very difficult with a large menu. Apple pie or cake? Takes 2 seconds.

Guy sees 1,000 different naked women every weekend online. Suddenly women "out there" are blah.

Employer gets 1,000 resumes for a single posting, but oddly, nobody seemed quite exceptional enough.

If you have choice fatigue, congratulations. You're in a very very good spot.

But, you might not be as happy as you think you are.

[–]Fit-Faithlessness149 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Not sure I agree with the porn argument. I think most men are pretty flexible with looks and degrees of fitness for women. I do think porn makes us less likely to be content with a plain Jane vanilla sex life.

[–]WOPR-19831 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I do think porn makes us less likely to be content with a plain Jane vanilla sex life.

That's what I said. It makes average women vanilla. Blah.

[–]Fit-Faithlessness149 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's far easier for a woman to become more sexually diverse in the bedroom than it is for a man to become more sexually desirable to a woman.

[–]IHateNormis 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The fact that they all have choice and they still conform to the Chad ideal shows that female preferences are uniform. It always astounds me that there are so many females and they all are exactly the same in regards to liking Chad

[–]SaltyGeekyLifter 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


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