I(35m) married for 6yrs in December to (35f). I kid 5 yrs old. Marriage hasn’t been great since we moved states because of work issues and so on. Since moving to the new state I haven’t been able to obtain the same status pay job I had. No one has hired me. I gave up on that career and went back to school for fire fighting/emt. I have my fire inspector license as well. I have a full time job and a part time. Go to school 3 nights a week for 5-6 hours. She stated on Friday she hates me and can never forgive me her not being able to stay home and take care of our child. We have been rocky for a while. Out of 6 yrs only maybe 4 big arguments that ended up with me leaving for the night because I was either told to leave or thought it was best to calm down. Now we just had the last of the 4 fights a month ago. After her telling me she hates me and will not forgive me I have come to the conclusion that this relationship is not going to work with how she feels towards me. So I told her to tell me what she wants to do and she told me I have not been trying. I have a full time job I work overtime every chance I get. Part time job. Been going to school since January and will be finished this December and be able to apply for the fd job. She says it’s also due to financial issues that I don’t make enough and I will not be able to give her what she dreamed of and will find someone better who can. No excuse me I’ve been trying my best. I have no family or friends except her and my daughter. She has her parents and sister here. I don’t talk about things that bother me because I get told I’m a b**h. So I stay quiet. Then I’m told I don’t talk to her emotionally. Anyways I feel like I’m dragging this out but I need to vent and have no one to really speak to. Friday she made her decision that we are not going to work. I asked to give me til Sunday to leave. She says ok. Now today while I’m at my part time job she texts me and says I wish you stayed home to help me(with our child) and I miss you and kinda lonely. I did not answer because I had explained to her that she cannot keep playing the game of telling me to leave and then trying to get me to crawl back. Now I’m home hanging with my child because who knows if and when I’ll be able to visit. I’m at a loss and now feel terrible for my child. I called out of work Monday so I have more time to move my things out of the home. She tells me today she had a mental break down at work and cursed a women out and is now going to be quitting her job come Monday. Now I feel even worse because this is obviously effecting her. But it’s also effecting me. I can’t concentrate at school or at work. I’ve talked to the instructor and my boss to let them know what’s going on and if I slack off pull me aside and address it before I get disciplined and I also accept that is not part of their job. Am I an a*hole? Am I right for finally leaving and ending it? I just cannot live the way we are living(mentally/emotionally/physically).

Thank you for reading whoever responds I am ashamed of myself and don’t have many places to turn. I’ve been trying to talk with a therapist but I have almost no time available to do it between two jobs and school and my kid. I have a place to stay, someone I work with offered me a room. So I’m going there tomorrow hopefully getting all my stuff out and in storage.