Anger and bitterness...

ronin2722 · 2023-07-06T02:09:34+00:00

I had the same thoughts as I am going through this all recently, but I finally had a hard talk with myself and I came to the conclusion that I'm not letting her win, I'm not letting her make me do something stupid where I will suffer even more. I get mad, sad, lonely...and yea I'm pissed...even though I am the one that left it was after years of mental, verbal and emotional abuse. I told myself get off your knee pull the knife out of your back and you show her who really is in control, I will not be the one who suffers in the end. She will when she realizes how good I really was to her and all I did for her. Yea financially I'm currently screwed and it sucks and its hard because the loneliness really takes its toll this early on. But when she got a lawyer and all of a sudden just turned bitter and basically is trying to hurt me and drag me through the coals I said no thats not happening you are going to see how strong I really am, even though you cut me down and actively want to see me fail and suffer now, I am not giving you that pleasure.

I do NOT negotiate with terrorists both foreign and domestic lol

Also though I have only been on here a couple days so far being able to post and comment and read others stories and realize I am not alone and she really was just a terrible person, how do you say you love me then do this, being here has actually made me feel much better even just in a couple days and has taken my mind from wandering to thinking about her less and less. I am focusing on me now and the support here has been incredible.

Stay strong my guy, focus on you, and keep talking and posting here. Bottling it up is dangerous and really only hurts us. One step at a time and the world will realign to give us a good life. Karma is a bitch.

JustTheSpecsPlease · 2023-07-06T00:52:37+00:00

Similar position, no kids, but paying for life.

Not sure I'm over the anger, but it isn't as constant as it used to be. They say time will resolve it, and it seems like that's starting to become true.

In the interim, work to change the thought pattern when you get into the well of anger. I wouldn't have been able to function without figuring out how to stop the pissed-off review in my head.

Don't do anything rash, and be good to you first.

warwww · 2023-07-06T01:56:40+00:00

Why don’t you have shared physical custody?

captainchippsixx · 2023-07-06T11:58:25+00:00

If I did it all over again, I would have taken the low road and fought as dirty as the ex’s do. Be on the offensive, tarnish her social media name with stories of her being a crap person. Specially if they are a cheater. You use there weakness to keep them busy and try not to have it come back on you.

MoodyMusical · 2023-07-07T13:08:13+00:00

I got past it by finally accepting that my anger and bitterness did nothing but hurt myself, which is exactly what she wants. I had to learn acceptance and practice it constantly. It took a long time and there was so much pain but I was able to get through it. You will too.

Title	Anger and bitterness...
Author	StoneyRocksInMySocks
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	July 6, 2023 12:41 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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