Being divorced hurts

ehllz · 2026-04-28T18:59:56+00:00

Go to an AA meeting or if you have medical insurance join their addiction program. I got clean and sober through Kaiser Permanente's program and it really helped.

Ok_Industry3016 · 2026-04-28T10:23:24+00:00

Hardest event t of my life and I've been though a ton. Used beer heavily initially got blasted to unfeel the pain of loss. Lean on us, support groups, call 988 and warmlines. My two first months post, I had to fight to not delete daily. Just broke me. 13 years love of my life and best friend. Poof just like that.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-04-28T00:16:14+00:00

Maybe you can start by accepting your current situation. Tell yourself that no one is perfect and you don't need to live a perfect life. We are all human and we do our best. We learn from our mistakes and to try to do better next time.

Shineynewflipflops · 2026-04-28T00:08:01+00:00

You say you are “hollow and empty”………I read guy who’s got a blank slate.

6StringFiend · 2026-04-28T00:06:37+00:00

Drank my fair share. Quit for 6 weeks while working at a bar. I needed to prove that I could do it for myself too. Then she said it’s weird when you don’t drink. Then say things like I was a mean drunk when I’m drinking and then go and buy me beer. I found out it was part of the problem but it wasn’t thee problem it was she never wanted to talk or listen to me when I was feeling depressed or upset about something. Now the more I look the more I see it wasn’t just those things. My therapist asked me if take her back and honestly as much as I love her and the 35 years together, I’d love to be friends but she’s just mean and takes no responsibility for the things she did and didn’t do. Still sad and still miss her like crazy. Forward movement and no looking back.

a_day_at_a_timee · 2026-04-27T23:57:45+00:00

i got sober during my divorce. 7 1/2 years later and going strong. You got this!

FitCombination3545 · 2026-04-27T23:48:05+00:00

You've already done the hard part by getting clean and sober. Now, you need to focus on maintaining that and making yourself happy and content so that you can attract the quality of woman you should be with.

IAPiratesFan · 2026-04-27T23:44:17+00:00

Sorry to hear that, sometimes people are their own worst enemies.

Able_Adhesiveness608 · 2026-04-27T23:18:00+00:00

If you're open to it, I'd suggest running through a 12 step (AA or NA). Find a good sponsor. You'll make friends and it's the cheapest therapy youll find for working through your pain and harm caused.

Title	Being divorced hurts
Author	Unhappy_Job_5099
Upvotes	16
Comments	13
Date	April 27, 2026 11:13 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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