Did anyone else feel like they failed even if leaving was the right choice?

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-20T03:04:45+00:00

> “You couldn’t make it work.”

You can't "make it work" because genuine desire cannot be negotiated. That's why marriage counseling is a waste of time.

fiddsy · 2026-02-19T07:55:43+00:00

Yes - I failed largely because it takes two to maintain a healthy relationship. She was under invested and I was over invested.

I failed to see it for what it was.

SwimmingOk7595 · 2026-02-19T07:35:00+00:00

Yes. I feel you. You couldn’t fix this one. But that’s ok. You’ll get to that state soon. Work on you, I know a lot of men say that post divorce. But do your thing, go to a strip club, drink a bit. Then focus on health. Exercise. Coach. Focus on work. Eventually buy new clothes. Look at yourself in the mirror. The go on a date. Flirt. It’ll be fun.

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-02-19T04:46:02+00:00

I didn't have a choice, we are fixers they are emotional.

Minimum_Step5048 · 2026-02-19T04:36:39+00:00

Yes. And it’s not exactly that I feel like I failed, it’s that it all should have been so preventable. Wondering where I went wrong etc. Ultimately you reach a point in a relationship where there is just no going back, but what happened in the steps toward getting there. What if I knew then what I know now.

It’s your mind trying to make logical sense out of a situation that isn’t logical

ItsHowItisNow2 · 2026-02-22T14:21:26+00:00

“Failure” is a part of being human and also an intrinsic component of being successful in the course of our lives. I rather call my experience a disappointment…one of many intermixed with uplifting experiences that balance and help you grow emotionally stronger and far more sensitive and perceptive of yourself and others around you.

Title	Did anyone else feel like they failed even if leaving was the right choice?
Author	itslauramitchell
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	February 19, 2026 12:44 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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