Divorce #2

darmitage55 · 2026-04-11T22:10:48+00:00

Second divorce on your anniversary, that's a brutal combo. And honestly, choosing your kids isn't failing. That's called having a spine.

Glad you've got a counselor. The 'good part' you're waiting for is real, it just takes longer than two weeks. Give it time.

darmitage55 · 2026-04-11T22:08:08+00:00

Second divorce on your anniversary, that's a brutal combo. And honestly, choosing your kids isn't failing. That's called having a spine.

Glad you've got a counselor. The 'good part' you're waiting for is real, it just takes longer than two weeks. Give it time.

funnyman6979 · 2026-04-10T21:58:52+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this, but to take a different approach I get this battle and balancing act I had to pull it off for a long time. Once my oldest (daughter) had her own kids then a light bulb went off. She was 10 when I met my second wife, we married when she was 14. None of this was an easy decision as if I had to choose me over her. As usually the case I met the new boyfriend of the ex in his boxer shorts so I felt like I was always dealing with things out of my control. Fast forward the step mom daughter relationship was clouded by jealously and lack of trust. I was always telling my problems to my daughter were the accusations.

My son lived with us due to step dad issues and this was a mess for two years. I finally got him in therapy but he ended up back at his Moms. He no longer talks to me that’s a post by itself.

We have one child together here, I wish everyone could hold hands and get along. Took time, but ironically my ex is divorced again and me and step dad juggle grandkids. Life is bigger.

My marriage two could have imploded countless times, due to similar dynamics. I think because the kids were two hours away maybe helped avoid this.

It takes a special person to get into these situations. I chose to not go here with someone with kids. But it was hard because my next wife didn’t have children.

I had one Christmas with both adult kids here with the grandkids. Doubt that will happen again so my point, you’re one guy, trying his best and at times I ponder if any effort yielded positive results. But shift gears one day at a time.

Hard reads here sometimes, but I try to give back. Always felt at the time I was on an island.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-04-10T17:32:02+00:00

When you're a single dad you have to realize nobody else is going to love your kids the way you do. You think they are wonderful while everyone else on the planet other than your co-parent thinks they are annoying little shits lol. That's just reality. Your wife only put up with them to be with you.

The best way is to NOT go the stepmom route but rather keep parenting all you and your co-parent. Have your significant other take on the role of the cool aunt, nothing more. Your new wife gets to spoil them and be good friends with them and then hand all the bullshit duties back to you and their mom. Everyone is happy and there is peace in the household.

Don't let rookie mistakes sway you from marriage in the future if that's what you really want. Just button up all the mistakes and things will be awesome.

FUMoney · 2026-04-10T17:20:43+00:00

Dude, why the F are your daughters writing “I hate you” letters to your wife?

That is some wild boundary-pushing. And maybe you should have said so.

nomohydro · 2026-04-10T16:31:28+00:00

Not being mean but why the hell would you marry again just date and commit. Marriage is a scam for men.

Not saying it doesn't suck still miss my ex wife terribly. I loved that woman with my entire being. Felt like she ripped my soul out.

TeddyPSmith · 2026-04-10T15:40:19+00:00

I’m going through #2 as well. It really sucks bc you think “I’ve redeemed myself”. Mine was also due, in part, to the blended family dynamics. I chose my daughter in the end. I rationalized that whatever pain I have to go through will be worth it to save my relationship with my child.

When I told my neighbor, she said that she was a child of divorce and that her mother chose her new husband. She said it always affected her negatively to know that. She said my daughter will always remember this and it will mean the world to her. So maybe that is a “silver lining” for you.

It still sucks though. I feel so much shame and humiliation. I’m sorry you’re going through this. This forum has been a tremendous help to me through it

Title	Divorce #2
Author	Nice_General268
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	April 10, 2026 1:25 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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