She got her final load of stuff

darmitage55 · 2026-05-20T16:11:58+00:00

Man, that emptiness after the last trip hits different. It's not just her stuff that leaves, it's the version of your life you thought you'd have.

Choosing your kids was the right call. That doesn't make it hurt less right now. Let yourself cry. Seriously. Don't rush past it.

UnknownUsername113 · 2026-05-19T21:11:42+00:00

Get out of that house. I hated moving my kids out of their schools when I sold our family house but it was the best thing for my mental health. Now the house I have is mine with all new memories.

It gets better if you want it to.

white033 · 2026-05-19T03:09:39+00:00

Sorry bud, I am likely a few weeks away myself and will likely feel the same as my divorce was not my idea. Both of my kids will also leave for new adventures so will be a completely empty house. I do have a great divorce care support group that has been very supportive and getting me out to do stuff to keep me busy. I hope you have options like this.. I will be getting a puppy the middle of August so am thinking that will help as well!!! Keep your chin up, we're routing for you!!!

CryptographerKey3781 · 2026-05-18T23:48:37+00:00

I am sorry to hear that man. I recommend therapy for yourself just so u can continuously vent man..u have to let it all out in a healthy and judge free environment. But also what helped me is this whole “start taking it back a little bit of at a time” thing. The premise is this, say your living room’s walls were always blue when u were married…pick one wall, paint it a different color of your choice..then each day paint another wall..and u will physically see the house being taken back by YOU…rearrange some furniture…and before u know it..it looks completely different and for me that helped tremendously

voonoo · 2026-05-18T01:53:25+00:00

Hey man, sell the house, it’s just going to remind you of the memories

Initial_Wonderful · 2026-05-17T22:27:00+00:00

You’re free brother….if she made you chose, you picked right. No one is worth alienating your kids

LaCathedrale · 2026-05-17T20:55:21+00:00

My ex collected the last of her stuff last week… with her new bf. Eight years, two kids and not only was it all gone, I was replaced in her life at the drop of a hat.

TheSteveSteward · 2026-05-17T18:56:45+00:00

That sucks man, I feel for you. Why did you have to choose between your kids and your wife?

ExtraLettuce555 · 2026-05-17T18:09:30+00:00

Uggh I know that one’s in my future too lol. It is indeed so final. I threw almost everything in the house that either belonged to her or could be an emotional trigger into one room. I’m not gonna rush her to get it out until we’re about to sign papers but I know that shit’s gonna hurt the first time I see that room empty

TheDavenessPhD · 2026-05-17T18:00:03+00:00

Those feelings mean you cared, and still do care deeply. There is no weakness in that. The strength it took for you to choose your kids over your connection with your wife? That's bravery.

Reaching out for help when you are feeling overwhelmed. That's wisdom.

NaturalTemporary2355 · 2026-05-17T16:34:20+00:00

Any woman that forces you to choose between her and YOUR children is a toxic cunt that you're better off without.

Wookster789 · 2026-05-17T15:08:29+00:00

You survived. That might be enough to think about for today. You can deal with tomorrow, then. You might dwell on why you chose this path...your child. Putting your motivation, energy, and care into that reason...might help you with the healing.

Keep reaching out!! There is a life waiting for you better than you can possibly imagine. It just arrived :)

123flocko · 2026-05-17T12:46:24+00:00

I also chose my son over the marriage. It sucks. You don't want to split but you can't stay together. Try to eat well, talk with friends and family, and stay busy. It's a long road, but things improve. At least now there's peace.

Title	She got her final load of stuff
Author	Nice_General268
Upvotes	27
Comments	20
Date	May 17, 2026 12:26 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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