My wife, after nearly 20 years of marriage and a couple of kids, unexpectedly asked for divorce. Needless to say, I am devastated and have already tried begging to no avail. There was no affair, she just said she just got bored and can’t stand me. I have always been the breadwinner, she has had a bunch of jobs, but never holds them for more than a year, as she gets bored and rather tend to the kids. We share bank accounts, credit cards and such 100%. I dont want to be an asshole, but she has asked me for divorce, at which point do I cancel all her cards and accounts and ask her to get her own? she currently has no job. She is probably not expecting me asking for 50/50 custody, but that will piss her off (I have always been a present father, I dont see why I should only see them on weekends). I also dont want to be an asshole, but if I need to redo my life, I need to sell the house and split profit 50/50, she has yelled at me for saying that and said that I should think of the kids and let her and kids stay at the house. Am I being an asshole? I want to be able to afford a place of my own so the kids can have their own bedrooms. Anyone dealt with this before? any advice? Im thinking of maybe letting her stay for a few years while she gets back on her feet. Any advice?