About six months ago I let my wife quit her job to improve her mental health and be closer to our two kids. I believed that I could handle the extra bills since I already took care of most of them and I was going to be having a significant raise so. I was wrong and the raise has been delayed so it may not come in for another few months.

She's now divorcing me and because of the extra finances I can't afford my own place and there's no room for me to go to my parents unless I pack a bag to be there on days i don't work. I'm stuck in the house with my ex unable to do anything because in starting to overdraft my bank account. We were doing ok with finances before all of this but these last six months had a bigger impact than we anticipated. I'm resenting my ex because she is going on dates where she doesn't pay for anything because she's a woman and I'm feeling like a bill payer and babysitter for her.

How do I get out of this hole? She's trying to start a job but there's no time frame for when she starts. I'm also in the process of trying to sell the wedding rings just to give me some financial relief. I'm also leaving out details of the divorce to maintain neutrality.