Going into those post divorce wilds

Decon_SaintJohn · 2024-12-17T03:50:20+00:00

Forget about the ex, and just be the strong, confident and amazing man you were before the ex drained that out of you.

ArizonaSpartan · 2024-12-16T20:42:42+00:00

FORD. Talk about family, occupation, recreation, and dreams (goals). If the last one lines up with yours, all the better. Make sure she laughs and has a good time as best able since you may not know her well yet.

soontobesolo · 2024-12-16T14:56:17+00:00

Excellent! Congrats!

Getting back into dating is daunting, but a few tips from my own experience:

* Don't sweat it. The stakes are low, if it doesn't work who cares, it's just "practice" to see what might happen. I had tons of dates like this early on.

* Be honest but not too open. She doesn't want to hear about your ex, at all. If asked, answer directly and move on to better subjects. It's ok to say "I'm a little new at this!"

* Listen to her and learn what you can. Be engaging and fun.

* Don't push the kissing/sex. If you're feeling it at the end of the night, ask if she'd like a kiss. And leave it at that for the first date. But WAY more important is to BUILD SEXUAL TENSION. This can include NOT acting on your sexual urges at all, but more to get her motor revving, until she's ready to jump you. Much more fun and effective! (this takes a little practice/confidence). Subtle touches, looks in the eye, smiles, etc.

* There are tons of good women out there, who are looking for guys like you. You'll find them. Don't just get with the first one you meet. Date around, enjoy yourself!

BatGuano52 · 2024-12-16T07:32:44+00:00

Good luck man, I can't provide a lot of advice, I haven't had a date in 27 years.

So, rooting for you, may the force be with you and waiting to see what the other guys have to see that I can apply to my first, whenever that ends up happening.

Current-Plant-1411 · 2024-12-16T04:51:29+00:00

1) Don't talk about your ex. I don't care if your date starts trauma dumping on you about her ex. You just nod and be sympathetic but don't reciprocate. You might think you are bonding but it's a turnoff to women, whether they know it or not.

You got this. And it gets easier the more dates you go on.

Title	Going into those post divorce wilds
Author	MattHakor
Upvotes	20
Comments	10
Date	December 16, 2024 4:22 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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