Some of you may recognize me from a previous post…you know…that one where I was trying to figure out how to manage the time between agreeing to divorce and beginning mediation.

I was frustrated with the lack of progress and transparency on starting mediation, being that it was the course of action we agreed on in therapy.

Well, lo and behold, today I was sent notification from her lawyer that she went ahead and filed for divorce! It took me about twenty seconds to forward that shit to my lawyer and tell him “ a hands on approach it is”. I meet with him on Thursday.

The email I received mentioned the complaint she filed but did not include it. I’m assuming I’ll get that by mail tomorrow. She’s out getting a massage as I’m putting our son to bed. She was jolly as could be beforehand, all friendliness and family time. I’ll be playing the same hand. I’m not saying shit to her about this. Nothing. Not a peep. We’re going all in with lawyers? Cool. Let them handle the fight. I’ll also have my phone charged and ready to record at all times.

Anyway, all of this is to say… yes you can hope for amicability and an easier route, but be prepared! Find your lawyer, pay that retainer, and be ready the second Mrs. Stbx decides she wants to do it differently after all. I’m happy to say I didn’t learn that the hard way.