How do you feel better?

RDJD5 · 2025-08-07T02:00:18+00:00

Ya moving back and forth. Sometimes it hurts so bad- you kept thinking why it doesn’t work when u want it to, why he/she didn’t want you. What went wrong? Why is love so hard… U kept telling urself let go, sometimes you are happy of being positive having move forward a step etc etc…it’s terrible to be living like this. Emotions can be hard to control- lack eq, too sentimental?? :(

SteveSan82 · 2025-08-04T03:09:28+00:00

It’s normal. Time heals. Hit the gym. Be realistic about the situation.

Mickyfrickles · 2025-08-04T02:51:14+00:00

I started anti anxiety meds. It's helping, so does therapy, but you have to get a good therapist. Working out. My nightmare started at the beginning of June. I think the only thing that really is going to do the trick is time. I still have dreams about her. Some days are starting to feel better, but heartbreak takes time. Your anger, your confusion, your feelings just need to be felt and they are valid.

AcanthocephalaOwn258 · 2025-08-03T16:03:12+00:00

Get a motorcycle, thank me later.

PurrpleCarrot42 · 2025-08-03T12:15:16+00:00

5 months separated and far from being officially divorced. In this time, the amount of time, and the frequency of thoughts I have about thinking about the life that was, or wishing that things were different, is slowly reducing day by day.

Short answer, keep doing what you are doing, have activities, hobbies, so you don’t have a lot of time just sitting and thinking. At the same time, don’t avoid the grief, feel it and let it pass through you, otherwise it will stay in for long and fester. Cry if that is what you need in the moment, withheld tears are toxic.

Boglehead101 · 2025-08-03T11:10:37+00:00

One area you don’t mention is exercise. I’m talking about something that gets your HR up for extended periods. Cycling, running, cardio, get the dopamine flowing. It works.

When you feel teary or sad, throw on a set of AirPods, listen to a podcast and head out for a walk.

Time does heal but this speeds up things.

Slowloris81 · 2025-08-03T10:50:59+00:00

Time will heal. But what helped me was finding the time to connect with others, especially divorced guys. Also therapy. These are important components of a support network that will help you get through this, which you will.

crayzeejew · 2025-08-03T07:38:28+00:00

Try to keep yourself as busy and occupied as possible.

Then, one day, you will realize that you haven't thought about her in days...then weeks...then months.

Title	How do you feel better?
Author	AlexNewmenn
Upvotes	6
Comments	23
Date	August 3, 2025 7:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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