Back in November, she told me I was the man of her dreams. We had some issues, and I admit I didn’t value her efforts enough. She came to me excited about changes she’d made at work, and I responded, “Are you really happy about that? At your age, you should be doing better for yourself.” I also called her fat and, after finding out she had a sugar daddy account before we met and was sleeping with guys on first dates (something she made it seem she wasn’t like), I angrily called her a whore. Things got really heated. For two months, communication was poor, and she ended up seeking advice from her friend and deciding to end things.

Now she says she needs time. Every time I break no contact, she tells me I’m not respecting her space and needs time to process her thoughts. How long does it take for a woman to process things? It’s been three weeks, plus the two months we spent trying to talk things through. I begged her to consider therapy, and she said she would give it a try. But when I text her anything romantic, like calling her "baby," she asks me to stop in a harsh way and says she doesn’t want me to see her. She even gets mad when I ask to spend time together.

she keep saying she didn't have time to process, because she was sick (which is true) and because she's busy with work... etc.

My female friends think she’s keeping me as a backup while exploring other options. I have access to all her social media and haven’t seen any signs of her talking to other guys, no messages or profile visits on Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, or even her emails. However, I know she changed her phone password, so I can’t check that.

Then today, for the first time, she posted a picture of herself on Instagram, and a guy who had hit on her before commented with a heart. She responded with “thank you” and a kiss emoji.

I’m torn. Should I keep trying with therapy and hope we can fix things, or should I just accept that this is the end, break the no contact again to tell her to forget therapy, wish her the best, save my pride, and move on?