M49 married 9 years to F40, two kids 10 and 7. Live in NYS. I have a good job, big house, two cars, 401k, but not a lot of liquid assets. Wife doesn’t work outside the home but comes from a wealthy family and has a trust fund that she hasn’t been able to draw from but eventually will. Our marriage isn’t working and the feeling is mutual. I’m heartbroken but I can’t live in this prison where everything I do isn’t good enough. Her best childhood friend is a divorce attorney that hates my guts. How much pain am I in for?