I don’t understand why she won’t communicate.

No-Walk-1633 · 2025-04-19T04:04:05+00:00

When she asked for an amicable divorce, what she was really asking was for you to just agree to everything she wants so she doesn't have any stress.

AggieDan1996 · 2025-04-16T14:59:35+00:00

She doesn't want to talk because she's convinced herself that you're a bad guy. It's how she justified to herself and everyone else why she's doing these things.

Talking to you risks breaking that narrative. She's gone, bro.

Don't be nice. Get a lawyer. File the petition. Work with the courts to get her in contact and let you establish your parental rights to custody. It's a contact negotiation at this point. Feelings for her have nothing to do with it now. She fucked that up.

Do it fast before she "gets established" and starts throwing out how it would be disruptive for your child to change their new routine.

engineered-chemistry · 2025-04-16T12:59:54+00:00

She is scared and doesn’t want to face the music even if it was her idea.

She took your child. She is not the woman you married any longer.

Get a lawyer, he will submit an order to the court for your child to be brought back to the state. Her being a SAHM has dire consequences for you in terms of spousal support, even if divorce was her idea. I would suggest mediation, particularly if you’re in CA

The fight ahead of you is to remain in your children’s life permanently and the remaining is a business transaction to limit the liability to your finances.

engineered-chemistry · 2025-04-16T12:59:18+00:00

She is scared and doesn’t want to face the music even if it was her idea.

She took your child. She is not the woman you married any longer.

Get a lawyer, he will submit an order to the court for your child to be brought back to the state. Her being a SAHM has dire consequences for you in terms of spousal support, even if divorce was her idea. I would suggest mediation, particularly if you’re in CA

The fight ahead of you is to remain in your children’s life permanently and the remaining is a business transaction to limit the liability to your finances.

Mymindisgone217 · 2025-04-16T12:02:22+00:00

She has abandoned doing things amicably with taking off with your child and not giving you a way to get ahold of her. I would suggest that you not sit around and wait hoping that things will eventually turn out. Contact police and let them know that she has taken your daughter away for 2 months and no way to contact her. You may need to contact a lawyer as well.

Your STBX will have to end up realizing that her actions are going to end up costing her any part of that money she was hoping to get, as you are having to use it on legal fees for tracking her down.

Of course if you know any of her relatives that are in contact with her, you could give them that message as a warning to her, before money is spent.
Make sure that in such a warning it is included that contact MUST be able to be continued through this, and during any time that children are involved.

jasoncb123 · 2025-04-16T12:00:34+00:00

Dude if you had done this you would straight up be on the national news every day.

In regards to your question it’s simple. She dosent want to. Forget everything you know about logic and reasoning on everything you have to do to deal with this woman going forward. Believe nothing, trust nothing she says or does. It’s a hard pill to swallow but the sooner you accept it it will get easier.

I mentally had to stop thinking of her as a person.

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-04-16T11:16:14+00:00

Because the woman you divorce is not the same as the woman you married.

Major_Pressure9823 · 2025-04-16T09:48:45+00:00

Original question. Why won’t she talk to me?

Major_Pressure9823 · 2025-04-16T09:45:40+00:00

The kicker for all of it. I’m the one who is emotionally affect. Yet she won’t have a conversation. It’s been 8 wkz.

I’m upset. Your upset. Over 8 wks we could have agreed on something. Now it’s just gonna be lawyers bitch.

I don’t understand. I told her I would me friendly.

Gentlemen. We are arguing over 60-70k. Oh no!

dudefromyork · 2025-04-16T09:15:26+00:00

Get to your lawyer immediately. And go to the police station and see what they say.

She can’t just “do a runner” with your kid. The sooner you get active the sooner you see your daughter again. Have you got her parents or siblings numbers? You need to call them as well.

Be prepared for the fake DV allegations. “I had to flee because he was abusing me”. So act calmly and don’t raise your voice.

Major_Pressure9823 · 2025-04-16T09:00:27+00:00

She took daughter without informing, until she was across stare line. She took her mother with her to go see her brother. Which she hadn’t seen in 10 yrs before we got together. She accused me of stocking be used they used my phone number for hotel points and I got an email.

dudefromyork · 2025-04-16T08:50:51+00:00

Has she just disappeared with your daughter? You need to get to the police station now and also get your lawyer to get a court order.

There’s no such thing as an amicable divorce and women can pretty much do whatever they want with impunity. Get your game face on and set your boundaries right away.

Title	I don’t understand why she won’t communicate.
Author	Major_Pressure9823
Upvotes	11
Comments	18
Date	April 16, 2025 8:22 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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