Loneliness post divorce

First-Bid8895 · 2025-02-13T18:41:45+00:00

You have to get out and basically start over... Start meeting people... I'm in a city I didn't grow up in.. all of my friends live in other states or I lost them like you from being married with kids... I have a dog I walk almost every day... I do yoga... I stay very busy... I'm alone often but not bored.... Work, dog, yoga, keeping up with the house... I always have something productive to do... After a longer marriage with kids .. divorce has a lot of us starting over and finding new people... It's not easy... Stay busy... Get out there ... Find stuff u enjoy that might have women there also... If u have the cash take a trip to see friends.. or a trip to explore some place.. monte negro.. Croatia... Costa Rica... Nicaragua...

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2025-02-13T18:19:01+00:00

I don’t know the ages of your kids, but finding something to do, outside the home, once a week, with other adults is pretty critical. Bowling or dart league, fishing, book club, jam band…

I don’t know what interests you, but find that thing.

InternJimmy07 · 2025-02-13T17:16:34+00:00

Are you traveler do some traveling on the off weeks or do you have any hobbies. I myself always try and stay moving it's when your ideal I struggle so long as I'm moving and doing things I'm OK. It's OK to do things Alone don't always need someone

aquatic-dreams · 2025-02-13T11:44:43+00:00

If you're anything like me, touch is a big part of your love language and it's been a long time. Get a massage. Holy shit, my first massage after not being touched in years was amazing, Upon leaving, I felt almost like I had just returned to Earth. That did more for my loneliness than I ever would have believed.

That's awesome your going to the gym and listening to books on tape 👍 but stay are you doing for you?. What are you working on? Any projects? Are you a regular at a coffee shop or a bar, so you can pop in from time to time and say hi to people. Have you looked at meetups, anything in your area that seems OK? Go if it's not your thing, just go once.. you like books on tape, check out a couple book clubs, yes they are more female than male, more woman read books regularly, that doesn't mean men aren't welcome. But it does mean it might treasure a couple before you find one you gel with, but the same could be said about anything.

Your emotions come from within you, so you control them. And loneliness, is often something else. From my experience the big three things under loneliness are lack of validation, community, or boredom. Start sorting that out. And in the mean time volunteer at a local pet store to help during adoption day, it's usually one day a month. That helped me a ton I joked around with nice people and played with furry critters helping them get a home. Try shit like that for a bit as you create your new life and see what sticks and what doesn't..

Good luck man, I wish you the best brother.

Exactly65536 · 2025-02-13T10:33:21+00:00

I'll be in a similar situation soon (hopefully); I am 6 years older and will have my son over half of every week.

My wife was my the only adult friend I had. The family is far away.

My therapist says I'll need to put some effort in building a working social circle; regardless of how I might feel about it. Everyone needs people to interact with; if you don't, you'd be a subscriber of r/depression sooner than you might think.

I don't know how to do that. Maybe I'll join an offline language class, even if I don't meet anyone ineteresting at least I'll learn a bit the language of the country where I live. Or join a book club, I read quite a lot anyway; I've heard book clubs tend to be more female than male.

External_East_7381 · 2025-02-18T20:20:06+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I was hunting for some online support groups, like zoom calls or something. Anyone know of any?

Title	Loneliness post divorce
Author	Ok_Night_6518
Upvotes	8
Comments	12
Date	February 13, 2025 4:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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