As the title says, my marriage is heading that direction. My (35) and wife (31) got married in 2016 after we found out she was pregnant and we were moving states for my job, needed her on insurance. Figured we loved each other, why not?

Everything is great, right up until the pandemic happens. We start working from home, around each other constantly. Things start to get rough. But we decide to have another kid and move into a new house. All of which causes even more strain on our marriage, she’s sick and had headaches pretty much the entire pregnancy which made her pretty much bedridden. It’s totally okay, understood she was in pain, didn’t take any of the attacks personal…

Move into new house, have baby, and things are pretty good! She feels better now that then baby is out of her. She sleeps along with the baby most of the days and it went pretty smooth.. up until about baby was about 7 months old and up until now.

I start a new job, more remote days, which was nice. But started to have to go in one day a week. Not bad I thought! Well the days I am home, she complains about not sleeping well or that she needs a nap, doesn’t feel well, name the excuse. She has also told me that she feels suicidal, to which I keep telling her to talk to her therapist about but she worries that they’ll commit her…Anything she can do to hide herself in the bedroom and not pay attention to kids.. it has become very routine, I kept positive, told her it’s okay! I’ve got the kids! But really it’s been 7 straight days of me waking up with the kids, taking them to school, picking them up, and getting them to bed. Not saying I don’t like it, but having a fully capable parent in the other room doing nothing kind of starts getting obnoxious.

Well, then we go out for her birthday. Had a fine time at a art walk, she barely spoke to me, went to lunch, she seemed better after eating but then polished off about 4 margs.. this led her to attacking me about “not caring” for her first son, my step son who is 14. We leave the restaurant and she continues to yell at me in the car, try to defend myself but she starts hitting me, it’s pouring rain, and we are on the highway going 75. Manage to get her home, she takes off in the car and decided to leave the state.. came home a day later.. since then, we have not spoke much about the fight or our feelings. But she mentioned that she told her therapist and it was suggested to go to counseling.. and she says she doesn’t know if she wants to be in the marriage because ei “said hurtful things” while she was attacking me.. idk, that was a lot of information. Advice?