My avoidant ex

BuilderOk8069 · 2026-03-17T14:17:07+00:00

Divorce is a business transaction where emotion heavy stuff is used to influence negotiations. She’s behaving exactly how she should be… unfazed with zero transparency on how shes processing things. Sharing emotions is something spouses, partners, and friends do. Engaging emotionally will not help either of you put the next foot forward.

Also, her being happy, going greystone, or anything else does not mean she’s found someone else. Don’t dwell on that, the more you’re focusing on her the less you’re focusing on you. You need to be focusing on you right now.

mesi130 · 2026-03-17T11:44:50+00:00

She probably checked out a long time ago. So sell the house and stay married? Remember the clock is ticking. If you’re the higher earner.

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-03-17T09:56:47+00:00

I feel you brother I hate it. I'm still in heartbreak hotel and she seems golden.

Conscious-Hope3083 · 2026-03-17T09:42:55+00:00

She may just be processing. I did a lot of reading today and found myself getting excited for how I’m going to decorate my next apartment for me and my daughters when they come stay with me. Leaving her the house for the girls and getting told I’m a good man has helped too. The last 2 months brother has been the most pain I’ve ever dealt with. It will get better! Focus on your goals weekly, monthly, 6 months, and yearly goals and let her ass go. She’s out my dawg. Good luck

The_Vincent_44 · 2026-03-17T08:00:13+00:00

Well have you taken that space to work on yourself mentally and emotionally? You have to look in the mirror and ask yourself what do you expect her to do in the situation other than go through the motions.

You are now in the next phase of your life, it's time to look at yourself emotionally.

2026-03-17T07:42:36+00:00

The truth is that you don't know why she's acting like that. It could be because she's moving on with someone else, she could just be putting up a front and is really hurting inside. She could just be more content in her life on her own and is fine with the separation. Unless you ask her, you won't know and she probably won't even tell you the truth so it's not worth thinking about.

You need to get to the stage where you are just able to move on. Don't ignore what you're feeling but make sure you're living in reality. This is a reality shattering event in a mans life and you should take this as a sign that you are confused because you have some hope that deep down this may figure itself out. Chances are it will not.

The faster you get to reality, the better.

BloodstainedBearRug · 2026-03-17T05:00:45+00:00

She’s fucking someone else, like my wife

Title	My avoidant ex
Author	manyaktalaga
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	March 17, 2026 4:19 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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