Question: if we split and decide to sell the marital home, do I have to pay out the equity immediately or upon sale?

pk2at · 2025-08-19T03:39:13+00:00

No, you can take your time. There is no compulsion to accept any offer, you can actually quote a high number and sit on it for years. She has to go to court again and say you are trying to stall

Decon_SaintJohn · 2025-08-18T21:33:37+00:00

The home has to be sold by the finalization date of the divorce. Once the funds are received, they must be distributed immediately to both parties.

notconvinced780 · 2025-08-18T16:22:34+00:00

Don’t get hung up on this. You’ll probably be buying in the same market you’re selling in, so pricing be low, high, or the same will mitigate with a buy and a sale. You don’t know if things “get better” in a month, a year, a decade or ever. The best thing men can do financially in a divorce is get it DONE… all the way…ASAP! You’re stopping over to pick up Pennie’s while stepping over the bags of dollars.

UnknownUsername113 · 2025-08-18T15:57:39+00:00

Most judges will demand you sell the home. They can’t do much about a house not selling unless you’re intentionally tanking the sale. Our realtor told us some horror stories about a wife that would spread peanut butter all over the walls and countertops before a showing. She was trying to stay in the house as long as possible.

I’m currently in the same boat and have had my house listed for 3 months. What should have been an easy sale is proving otherwise. We’ve only received extremely low offers from people trying to get a deal. 6 months ago my home was worth $600k. Now I’m going to be lucky to get $500k. Don’t expect anyone to sympathize with that as anyone who doesn’t own a home is currently very hostile towards homeowners.

Our divorce states that we split the proceeds (after I take my cut for equity I’ve built while she’s been out of the house).

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2025-08-18T14:50:37+00:00

If you have it listed for sale, then yes, if both sides agree, you can stay in the house, and pay the bills until it sells. The equity would then need to be divided.

Derelict86 · 2025-08-18T14:46:12+00:00

In my divorce, the home sale proceeds are in trust while we are working through custody and a final financial settlement.

You normally wouldn't pay out equity until after the sale, but you need a lawyer to help guide and protect your best interests.

Several-Eagle4141 · 2025-08-18T14:41:33+00:00

The divorce should specify by when you have to sell by

Title	Question: if we split and decide to sell the marital home, do I have to pay out the equity immediately or upon sale?
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Date	August 18, 2025 2:39 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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