Will probably get served papers soon. Didn't know she was like this. After getting pregnant she turned into some entitled immature brat. Last year she threatened I'd never see my kid because I am a "substance abuser addict" That broke me. Reality was she just got pissed I was vaping without her consent or knowledge (I don't at home) and she doesn't let me have time with my own child because she thinks that's the only thing she can use to hurt me.

That next day I quit recreational vaping, poured all my liqour down the drain, then lost 20 lbs that month and then got a better career and pushed myself to learn and work like never before. I never hit or yelled at her. I'm just a stand up Christian values guy who never had any issues to begin with but I went to this extent because maybe I am the problem? I removed all vareibles. The only thing I still fail at is fully giving away my soul, How much more do you want? Absolute controll of another human being? You don't even finacialy work.

She is now attorney shopping and will try to get sole custody and then running back home to mama. She lives in a delusion where if I spend 3 hours with my own child without her knowing all the details it's considered kidnaping and calls the police but she can spend 3 nights away from home at her mama's house and that's fine because she is "primary caretaker"

she says she would rather endure physical abuse and infidelity than the emotional abuse inflicted on her, along with my emotional unavailability. Meaning being an individual who is not manipulated to do whatever someone wants via shame and guilt on a daily basis anymore.

I've tried multiple attempts of getting some sort of counseling/therapy or third party mediator just so we can work on the communication issues and maintain a stable two parrent home for our kid. I even had the discussion, where am I going to go after all this, be homeless or live in the ghetto while making child support payments? "You should have considered that before breaking my trust"

Oh my favorite part she still wants sex from me.

This very short marraige has been such a growing experience and emotional rollercoaster. I can't fix her. We don't even have significant assets or anything and she wanna go blow this family apart and go back to mama and go out and find love while she's still young.. with a child now.

There's too many stories or details I can't include in this and after all this is just MY personal perspective. Probably will get 50/50 custody and start living a better life, will go even harder on the self improvement and hopefully actual time with my child. I will definitely be getting therapy after all this to fully resolve the underlying issues on why I let it get this bad, and get over the severe trust issues.

Mentally, I now accept whats going on and the constant anxiety stress of the uncertainties arent there anymore. Thanks to the people who already reached out to me. I'll be fine, wish me luck.