Really could use a little happiness

NO_PRND · 2020-04-17T00:47:53+00:00

You don't see it now. She's doing you a favor sometimes we need to go through something bad to find out who we really are. I just divorced my wife after 20 years. She cheated. I went into a deep depression to the worst place I've been in my entire life, lost my job and basically I'm starting over as if I'm 20 again. I was so sad in the beginning but I realized I now have the right to be selfish. I always put my wife and son above myself. Now I get to do what I want when I want.

I spend time with my son as we have shared custody. But taking care of myself has proven to be the best thing. If covid-19 ends I'm going to Hawaii in September with 10 of my friends from high school to celebrate our 40th birthdays. I'm also going snowboarding with some other friends this winter in Canada. All things I would not have done because I wouldn't have spent the money because it was for the family before.

Take time to heal, do not jump into a new relationship because you're lonely. Take some time to figure yourself out. Go out and enjoy life.

CB33isGMC · 2020-04-17T01:13:18+00:00

Women have fallen out of love with men both great and weak. It is not a reflection of your value. It is the nature of things. You will not die alone unless you give up and choose that fate. Don’t panic and don’t despair. Fuck your savings. It’s just money. Embrace freedom. Leave.

henrysmyagent · 2020-04-17T02:37:30+00:00

You will find after a brief adjustment period that you will be a lot happier after she leaves.

Be sure to cut her out of your life completely. She has fired you as her husband so don't go doing any of the things you have been doing for her all these years. She is a strong, independent woman and can do everything for herself.

xXEdd2868 · 2020-04-17T08:32:01+00:00

There's a light at the end of the tunnel. You, me and many others have gone through what you're going through. What matters is that you keep yourself busy and try to stay positive. Go out with friends, laugh, hit the gym, new hobbies. Lots to do my friend. Don't you give up on us now!

Hoggie2878 · 2020-04-17T11:42:32+00:00

I'll tell you something that helped me through a nasty divorce. First, always take the high road. People will take notice, and you'll thank yourself for staying in character in the long run.

Second, and this is what really helped me, is that Divorce is like the Tour de France. Some of the "tours" you're climbing a mountain, a super tall fucking mountain, in rain, sleet and snow. You never know when you'll make it to the top. It sucks to say the least. And then other times, you're just coasting along the flat countryside, sunny and bright.

Just realize that there WILL be better days, but only if YOU make those days happen. Good luck friend! Let your prosperity be the best revenge!

SpearCatcher1 · 2020-04-17T03:21:05+00:00

Well, you aren't alone in this.

Title	Really could use a little happiness
Author	Compressorman
Upvotes	16
Comments	17
Date	April 17, 2020 12:28 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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