First...I feel very bad for guys here with young children 'cause that really hurts. I'm 60 and my 'baby' is done with college and on her own (kinda). The ONLY reason I endured this marriage was to watch my baby grow up. I left the marriage 60 days ago.

I am already alot happier but change is always hard. I guess I am just looking for advice, support, etc.?

  • In my state I can be forced to pay alimony until I am 75. That's a death sentence for me. I need to retire now! I'm so stressed out and burned out I barely survive day to day. But I am a dad, I need a dad-job with a dad salary.

FYI....Retirement planning was a HUGE problem our entire marriage; mine basically had no interest in earning any real money during our entire marriage. It poisoned our relationship. If I can't get a 'fair' economic outcome I see no solution except suicide.

  • My wife wants me to move back. I can't do that. It feels like she lost ALL interest in me, as a man, as soon as we realized she was pregnant in 2002. This has been pure torture, just Hell! I've been nothing but a doormat for her so I could watch my child grow up. And she's made it clear she plans to torture me economically if (when) I go legal.

  • Housing. I am in a month to month hotel. It is not horrible. But I can't stay here indefinately. But, at 60, I can't go get a 30 year mortgage and make payments till I die. I just don't know what to do. And rent is so high everywhere!

  • The future (dating). I'm super lonely (and I have been for ages, a loveless sexless marriage is really lonely). I'm in a Men's Support Group. I have not found a Divorce Support Group (they are all religious, I am not). In real life I am tall - 6'5". I found a Tall Women dating site, maybe I should join? 😆 (Unfortunately, Big and Tall tends to be 'BIG', no thanks!).

I have worked out my whole life. I have a single, childless female friend from yoga. She's too young for me (12 years). She's been SO nice to me lately. She invited me to a comedy club tonight. I am going. But I know this won't turn into a 'relationship'.

NO, I can't leave the USA because my elderly dad is here (1.5 hours away). And my young adult daughter is here.

Can anybody offer any support, kind words or advice. Or should I just end it all?

Thanks.

And wishing all the best to you guys, most of you have it worse than me! Hang in there.