She Hates Me

gangbangglenn · 2026-01-12T00:17:16+00:00

OP is the terminator.

Vollen595 · 2026-01-11T19:52:34+00:00

Same here. She hit that point where I refused to allow another second of her bullshit and mentally wrote her off. Zero discussion about divorce because I made up my mind and there was no going back. She didn’t understand, couldn’t understand and just kept trying to make inroads with whatever points she was trying to make. I never once raised my voice. Never reacted to her. Essentially turned her voice into white noise. She just kept saying she didn’t understand (she sure AF knows why). Kept trying to get me to respond or bend a little. I finally said to her. ‘Let me explain this to you as clearly as I can so you understand. Once our kid is 18, it’s like you never happened. Never existed.’ She already torched her relationship with her daughter, she’s zero contact. Her reasons oddly have little to do with the divorce. Some people should never be a parent. She’s one of them. All around just a shitty person wrapped in narcissism and addiction. Since my daughter will likely never contact her again, why would she think I would waste another second listening to what she has to say? If it wasn’t for a shared chiid I would have already changed my number. The countdown is on until age 18.

BigBubbaMac · 2026-01-11T16:00:47+00:00

It's easier to hate and blame instead of taking any accountability.

Her hate for you is more about her and less about you. It also tells you that your doing the right thing.

Standard-Adeptness46 · 2026-01-09T05:42:31+00:00

What you said is someone who’s exhausted from holding the line, not someone who’s heartless. I can definitely relate to this. Staying contained when you know any emotion will be used against you takes a real toll. Carrying guilt for doing what you believe protects the kids is heavy, especially when it means being misunderstood on purpose. A lot of us don’t admit how much that part hurts. Huge props to you brother. Sending lots of love.

BathAutomatic6972 · 2026-01-08T19:45:20+00:00

Did you get this opinion of yourself from her or her friends/family?

You think this because you relied on her to give you an opinion of yourself. Narcisissts and monsters don't feel remorse when they're accused of being cold, calculating, etc. Victims of emotional abuse feel that way. Victims of codependency feel this way. A man who stands up and asserts boundaries is often accused of these things because they're centering themselves for the first time. And to takers in codependent dynamics, that often looks and feels like narcissism.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-01-08T07:54:28+00:00

Unless you’re an absolute monster, marriages are 50/50 mate. We all have our part to play. Even the wife…

However, they check out 6-12 months before dropping the bomb usually.

By that point, you have clarity and the behaviour she’s been exhibiting for the last 6 months, starts to make total sense.

Realisation is further compounded by her being way ahead of you in terms of building a divorce strategy.

At this point, you’re HER enemy. That’s why she’s colder than a witches tit

Now she’s YOUR enemy

Wipe the tears away and act accordingly mate.

It will get better

Title	She Hates Me
Author	NoIdeasNoSolutions
Upvotes	8
Comments	6
Date	January 8, 2026 2:42 AM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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