The Weights.

Psychological_Art823 · 2024-07-08T03:08:30+00:00

Yea man just keep going. Your dealing with a bunch of shit rn. Give yourself credit.

Keep doing all those things that are helping manage ypur anxiety.

Good work taking a step back and seeing all the moving parts. Your doing great. Just keep going. Look after yourself as best as you can. Things will get better.

UseResponsible4368 · 2024-07-08T02:38:05+00:00

You're in Sandwich situation, man. You got kids to worry about as well as a parent.

This is when taking care of yourself in order is key in order to better take care of others. And you matter, too.

Knock those problems down. You got this.

captainchippsixx · 2024-07-07T22:23:50+00:00

What ia stupid is they want to limit your time with the kids because they think they get more $$. Then they want you to take the kids more as long as they get the $$. That’s all ex’s care about. Not the kids, but just $$.

Remember whatever she claims- she has no evidence or shitty contrived evidence. Tell the truth. Your honor this is a blatant fabrication. I can provide evidence to the contrary of her fabrication. I have texts and emails from the ex that said she would do this in court and restrict access to the kids unless I do X and agree to blah blah blah. So a form of Blackmail your honor.

TechnicalAd5152 · 2024-07-07T18:34:30+00:00

You're in the shit right now, remember the majority of guys have been exactly where you are at, when you're going through hell keep going, you're stronger then you even know.

The only person whose gonna determine when you can see your child will be the judge make it clear he/she will be the only one deciding it if she won't settle at 50/50

Least_Winter9632 · 2024-07-07T18:04:19+00:00

You’re in the thick of it. The fear and apprehension are very real. Sounds like you’re managing it pretty well though. It’s a brutal process. Sure, there are things to help manage the stress, but it’s still a really tough thing you’re going through. Stay strong 💪🏻

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-07-07T16:32:34+00:00

The problems will magnify each other, I've found. Something that by itself wouldn't be so bad seems worse as you have less of yourself to dedicate to i.

Like, you know something minor like knocking your drink over generally is 'ah well' but if it's a really awful day, you're under a ton of pressure at work, you have zero time, home is bad, etc? It might really seem like a bigger issue than what it is.

You're in a 1000x situation like that right now. But you're handling it right, you focus on making yourself better, as while it won't help with the situation at hand per se, once you get through this (and you will) you'll be in a great position, rather than if you had just spent this time just 'surviving' and once you start feeling better have to re build your body and mind you let languish during the difficult times.

As for the specifics, while not guarantee of course, my courts these days will give a dad 50/50 assuming you have a place for them, you can take care of them, etc. Just have to let your ex's hateful emotions wash off; she doesn't control anything, least of all you.

As for attorney's wanting money? Ugh, yeah, that's what we do. Especially if they have to talk before a hearing. Our justice system works okay...if you can pay for it. Which is a shitty way to get justice, really.

Title	The Weights.
Author	Aggravating_Text956
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	July 7, 2024 4:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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