Therapist disclosure

Specific-Relation-62 · 2024-10-28T06:35:21+00:00

As a therapist, I would never discuss my client going through divorce with a mediator. Keep your stuff private! One thing can sink the ship

Reflog1791 · 2024-10-24T17:12:12+00:00

Don’t do it. Going to couples counseling with your stbx is a mistake. Just get your own counselor who works for your health and well-being.

The risk is these therapy notes being submitted to court.

I had a cheating ex wife and the female couples therapist was giving her legal advice. It was harmful to my health and well being.

swrdfsh2 · 2024-10-24T09:30:35+00:00

Have a look into retro-active consent. I'm not going to go into detail, but my ex-wife during a joint session said that I forced myself on her. It was our first time together, in a foreign country, 17 years prior.

I found that it could be considered a violation if I had waived our confidentiality. It wasn't the therapist that let me know, but my lawyer.

Be very careful.

deep66it2 · 2024-10-23T19:52:03+00:00

kbray0009 · 2024-10-23T19:41:11+00:00

STBX says it would help her personal therapy if her therapist knew more about me. I’m wondering if there are any legal issues. We have not begun the process of separating yet.

darealyst · 2024-10-23T19:24:35+00:00

I wouldn't consent personally, not a chance. I remember a post about a woman who wanted to backdoor her husband by using something he had said in couples counselling but couldn't unless he agreed for it to be released. This is in-effect what agreeing to this would be doing.

techrmd3 · 2024-10-23T19:09:39+00:00

what an oddly specific question, I would gather from your question that the divorcing spouse's therapist wishes to talk to your couples therapist

The motive appears suspect

The thing to realize is the couple's therapist is not your therapist nor is it your STBX's therapist.

The couple's therapist's patient is the RELATIONSHIP. Which means that if therapist for STBX talks to the RELATIONSHIP therapist... not much good for you can come of this

The therapist for STBX is firmly in the STBX's corner and would advocate to the RELATIONSHIP to make accommodations and be easier for STBX to be in the relationship, not one word would be on how to get along with you better, the only information exchanged would be information of what the STBX wants from the relationship.

So if you are the bad person who causes ALL of the difficulty in the relationship you will get a laundry list of those complaints to the RELATIONSHIP therapist... who will then in turn tell YOU that to help the relationship you should do all the STBX's wants and needs.

Pretty easy to get along with someone if you never disagree and acquiesce to all demands/wants. Right?

This is why couples therapy is a waste of time. The other side will never ever take accountability or make behavior changes, and should you do all the changes that are stated there will be "something" still unstated that still makes the other party resentful.

If the Relationship Therapist notes good behavior by you... and turns to the other party asking for similar work, the other party will just leave the therapy claiming that the Relationship therapist is "bad"

It's the no win scenario

Title	Therapist disclosure
Author	kbray0009
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	October 23, 2024 6:55 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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