I officially got divorced this past October. It took over 2 years and lawyers from 2 different states and another country. Between the both of us we sunk in about 150k in lawyer fees.

I've dealt with almost all the horror stories you hear about. False allegations, CPS, GAL'S, therapists, home studies. I've been kicked out of my house so many times by police I can't even keep count. I've taken more drug tests and therapy sessions than a habitual repeat offender. I even lost custody of my kids.

I've been punched, kicked, stabbed, had a gun pointed at me during our 10 year marriage. I always refused to call the cops. Yet when she did these things to me she would call the cops and say I was the one who did it. How in the heck I survived all those years without getting charged or going to jail is beyond me.

I was always in a work from home situation and always took care of my kids. She was basically a usless SHAM. The one time she got a job she cheated on me. Once I found out I dropped the kids off at her work and said I'm not a babysitter for a cheating wife.

At about year 5 I learned about Married Red Pill from a friend. It really helped me process some of the confusion in my brain.

I really thought we were getting better at about year 7 and we moved to a new state. We were on the cusp of buying our dream house. What's strange is anytime we tried to buy a house she would throw nuclear bombs on our marriage.

I saw the warning flags pop up. The false allegations, weponizing the kids against me, and the dreaded call to police.

We were in our new house for less than a month. We didn't officially own the house and I still had the apartment we rented. She brought up the D word and that was it for me.

I woke up the next morning and went to my friend's house from whom I was buying the home from. Got a good lawyer, waited till she left the house and packed up everything and moved back into the apartment. 2 days later my lawyer officially filed.

It took balls of steal to follow through with this. My small head wanted to attempt to continue but my brain knew otherwise.

I had to have a recorder on me at all times and this proved very wise. I was about to be arrested when I convinced them to listen to my recording and she ended up being arrested. I actually bought 2 recorders so I could make sure I was getting 24x7 coverage. Some of the things she said to the kids about me is sickening and heart breaking.

Gentlemen, document document document and document.

The day I filed for divorce I documented everything. What I made for food, school visits, brushing teeth, all of the time accounted for weather with me, their friends or the ex, doctors visits, everything.

It was easy for me to take charge of my kids life because I had always done everything anyway, just this go around it was without her input that never mattered anyway.

I'm very well versed in how the family court system works and know that men get screwed big time. It is easier to give up custody then to fight through that system if they are already against you. Anything she said was considered the absolute truth.

Right now I have nothing financially wise, but I'm at the point where I can at least put a cap on the lawyer fees and start to move on. I suspect it will be 2 years before I get those paid off.

I got primary custody, child support, and a judgement to recoup part of my lawyer fees.

She hates me now worse than ever before and my kids blame me for the divorce. Their young and I know one day they will understand the sacrifices I made for them. I just provide a loving family home and participate in their activities.

Some say the best day of their lives is when their kids are born. Mine was 2 years ago when the judge granted me the primary on temporary orders which is now final. At the time my kids were Between 3 and 7.

I've yet to receive a penny in child support so the fight goes on. I have to deal with her for another 15 years and I know I have to keep documenting. One day I pray she will let it go.

I'm most happy I don't have to get sleep deprived anymore.

I will probably never marry again, but I do say it is nice getting some young blood with perky tits. I'm fixed so I will never have children again.

I wish you all the best of luck. It's a jungle out there.