Torture

Reflog1791 · 2024-06-19T16:50:38+00:00

It helped when I realized the ONLY sustainable option was move on and let it go. Rebuild and make your life better than it was before. It takes some thinking and work to come up with new dreams and make them come true.

For example you can get buff, update your wardrobe, get a haircut, that’ll all help you get a raise/new job. The final piece is upgrading from your lousy ex. That part is the easiest 😝

upvotersfortruth · 2024-06-19T07:20:43+00:00

If you’re stuck in circular thinking, write your thoughts down in a notebook or open a note in your phone. It’s amazingly helpful in stopping that hamster wheel or at least edit: slowing it down. If the anger is what’s killing you, go for a drive and just shout out all the nasty shit you want to tell her. Both of these techniques have brought me great relief over the years.

Rollercoaster72 · 2024-06-19T06:04:35+00:00

Just think about the fact that not everybody is equal and not everybody has the same values as you do. Just accept that people are different and everybody is doing his or her best they are. You don't need to forgive her, but you can accept that people are different and many can't do better than you'd wish for.

So leave that as a fact and try to concentrate on you, check what you did wrong and try to fix yourself on those places where you could have been better. Your life is about you, make yourself a better version and leave her behind. It's not about her anymore.

yourcarlosdanger · 2024-06-19T19:12:26+00:00

The five stages of grief. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.

Going through the stages is not one stage at a time. Everyone backslides but the progress is forward and eventually you will get through them. At least you have passed the Denial stage and are experiencing the normal emotion of anger at her betrayal. Righteous Anger in the face of Injustice is healthy and normal. We are all shocked when we are finally forced to see past our denial that the beautiful princess we married turned into a back stabbing cheater. Then we get angry, then we try to bargain with the Petty Tyrant. She enjoys our pain and groveling and refuses to change. Then we have a good cry (depression) followed by realizing that she isn't worth it and we accept our new life without the Petty Tyrant.

They are so tuff with the full power of the State backing them because they have the right genitalia.

capnjackstation · 2024-06-19T05:17:08+00:00

I know what you mean. But who's to say she won't live to regret it? For all you know she might look back one day and regret her decision.

Title	Torture
Author	Aggravating_Text956
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	June 19, 2024 3:27 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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