Who gets the house?

godolphinarabian · 2023-04-22T21:51:54+00:00

You can do whatever you both agree to. So if you want to gift her your equity in the house for free, you can. If you want to exchange your equity for reduced alimony you could do that too. Or you don’t do anything and demand 50% equity but then she’s also going to demand whatever alimony or support she’s entitled to.

If you go to court most judges say it’s 50/50 so whoever can afford to buyout does. If not possible for either to buyout then you sell the house.

But I think what you’re saying is that you BOTH want the house.

In most cases she is entitled to half the liquid assets. So she could be planning to take half all the savings and then give some of it back to you buy out the house, assuming she is approved. Is 50% of all the cash and retirement and stocks you both have $160k or higher?

Very rarely do two spouses both want the house and can both afford to buy the other out. If you get to the end here a judge will encourage you both to rethink if you actually want the house (usually one of you will back down). If no one backs down then a judge will force you to sell.

FunkyTownMascot · 2023-04-23T06:34:25+00:00

Try to buy her out and get her out of your life. No way can she buy you out. All she can do is weaponize the court for child support and alimony to make you her slave and make you a forever enemy.

Any kids involved?

gnackered · 2023-04-23T15:18:57+00:00

IMHO the best answer is neither of you get the house. You sell it and both start fresh. You divy the net sales price so all the commisions and fees are baked in - so its fair.

Houses are sources of irrational behavior - if she is prepared to max herself out to keep it, I would negotiate accordingly. At the end of the day it doesn't matter, its just an asset, not "the" home.

rcb0019 · 2023-04-23T19:19:04+00:00

Over 6 figures? So you make 7 figures/year? Or did you mean you are well into 6 figures. If 7, please hire me lol

Title	Who gets the house?
Author	steaksauce872
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Date	April 22, 2023 8:13 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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