What bothers me the most

xweert123 · 2025-02-14T08:24:16+00:00

A good way to put it is that any decent man never falls for this stuff. Red Pill Ideology prays on dumb people or troubled and insecure people, i.e. people you likely would not want to be in a relationship with.

Don't value yourself based on bizarre fringe thoughts grifters on the Internet believe; you aren't missing out on decent partners because of redpill ideology. Bad partners are missing out on you because of that ideology.

That's the saving grace of Red Pill Ideology; since it tricks men into being terrible partners, it makes it extraordinarily difficult for them to actually have fulfilling relationships and get into relationships with decent good people.

Practical-Tea-3337 · 2025-02-14T12:00:56+00:00

Stop watching that crap, and if anybody uses red-pill jargon with you, consider it a good filter to weed out the baddies.

Academic_Type624 · 2025-02-14T09:13:38+00:00

The whole thing about the Red Pill is it assumes that women only have worth for sex and procreation. It doesn't talk about any other role a woman might fill.

So I'm in my 40s now and child free. I love spoiling my nieces and nephew. I do 2 jobs, one as a therapist, the other supporting vulnerable people access support. I provide friendship. I support my husband while he's starting his business. In short, I contribute my time to building the wellbeing of others and I believe that benefits society as a whole. Yet reduce me down to my sexual value for fertility I'm on the scrap heap.

This is a deliberate attempt to sabotage women's confidence and self-esteem.

I know its hard not to wonder if a man won't want someone younger etc. All I will say is there are good men out there who don't agree with the Rp and will appreciate you for you. Some good role models of this are The Speechprof and Cyzor.

xvszero · 2025-02-14T15:24:16+00:00

Red pill is nonsense. I'm 46, 20 year olds look like kids to me now.

I'd also not get too caught up in certain Christian ideology, it can be very harmful as well. A lot of girls I knew went through a lot of emotional distress because they lost their virginity and they felt like they were now worthless and impure. It's also nonsense.

bakewelltart20 · 2025-02-14T10:09:04+00:00

YOU don't want Men who think this way.

Problem is, they will pretend they don't until you're actually in a relationship with them.

My ex only started spouting this rubbish when I'd known him for years. And we're middle aged, I'd 'hit the wall' years before we met (so had he! 😆 he's older than me.)

I have friends who got together and had 2 kids in their 40's, I know quite a few 40ish+ first time mums, most of the others were 30+, so these incel idiots cut-off point of 30 is kind of hilarious to me. None of their beliefs actually correlate with what I've seen in real life.

If you want to have kids you need to be even more wary of who you get together with and establish that they don't secretly hold these beliefs.

IDidntDewItt · 2025-02-14T19:13:09+00:00

The whole point of redpill is to create power dynamics. It's meant to lower your self esteem if you are a woman and meant to elevate it if you are a man.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2025-02-15T00:42:36+00:00

So to put the redpill into perspective: it's a scam meant to sell and get adclick revenue. It is not meant to actually help anyone, it is meant to push buttons and keep gullible guys coming back.

You have nothing to gain from engaging with it. If a guy believes in it, ditch him and go with a man instead.

Most guys are not big on the redpill. In fact, outside of redpill spaces, redpill is seem as being interchangeable with "incel" by people that know about redpill. It is really looked down on. And guys into it will likely be covered in red flags. I see people here claiming it is hard to spot, but every redpill guy I have known was really obvious. Weird culture war rants, inability to just enjoy things, inability to be happy for others, lack of basic empathy, default behaviors repelling women, desperation for validation, they elevate weirdos as gospel, and they tend to be embarrassing to be seen with.

octave120 · 2025-02-15T00:02:08+00:00

If some guy leaves you just for a younger woman, then that’s the trash taking itself out.

But yeah, people who talk like that are annoying. I haven’t met any in real life who are like that, either. I’d like to think it’s just a vocal minority of bitter men online.

emynepnep · 2025-02-16T01:15:16+00:00

they want you insecure and inexperienced, they want wives to used and not to love.

they dont see women as humans, they are object to use. and if you virgin, you easier to miss red signs, you never dealt with men enough to see the tricks and you never compare him to better men in sex. he could neglect her sex needs and she already become used, he want her trapped. this why they shame single mothers, they want kids to be trap to women with them. treat her badly and she cant leave.

you dont want those men, even if you are 20. they are not great partners or husbands.

WiseRange2249 · 2025-02-14T21:23:27+00:00

You are not the majority of women and especially not the ones red pill is referencing. Saving yourself for marriage is exactly the right thing to do. You are setting yourself apart from most women by respecting yourself.

A lot of this stuff is a long winded version for “If she can’t respect herself (by being promiscuous) how can I respect her?”

That’s all they are really saying. So yea if a women decides to spend her 20s and 30s out doing all these ho bag things and then also picks up a couple kids on the way, how could any woman seriously think some man is going to want that?

The more men a woman sleeps with, the less she can pair bond. Aka have a lasting/deep connection with a partner.

Women want unconditional love but I guarantee if I lost my job, did not get another one, and became an absent father, my wife of 13 years would leave me. You don’t see near the amount of homeless women do you? Love is transactional for men as well but we accept that. I know if I weighed 300lbs, didn’t have a job and had a blah personality, I would have never had the first date with my wife. I’m fine with that.

I unknowingly used a lot of the red pill philosophies when I was dating. I had given up. I didn’t want tattoos, a high body count or to be a step dad. I was 29 before I met my wife. I’m damn glad I didn’t settle.

I’m in very good shape and have a great job. We live a very comfortable life and I respect her. Because of who she is. Men will respect women if they deserve it. Just so few deserve it.

You just keep doing what you are doing and you will find the man you are looking for, or he will find you.

WiseRange2249 · 2025-02-14T21:51:32+00:00

Don’t listen to these women.

You’re saving yourself for marriage. You’re doing the right thing.

You aren’t who the red pill is talking about.

You haven’t damaged yourself by sleeping around

BeneficialAioli · 2025-02-14T06:32:08+00:00

My 2¢ I been with virgin women and they are much more caring and I can feel the connection and innocence. Older women in my experience are much more callus and cold. I feel most of the man don't care for the age but they can feel that the woman is not letting herself feel the love.

Plus all the red pill does is to trauma bond women

I would like to read your insides about the matter

Title	What bothers me the most
Author	beautifulllstars
Upvotes	40
Comments	33
Date	February 14, 2025 6:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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