What made you exredpill?

Booda069 · 2021-08-13T20:11:16+00:00

I don't think I was ever redpill. Just liked the idea of men getting together to talk self improvement and relationship stuff. Felt like the gym and barbershop came online

Worse thing among the circles is their obsession with calling men simp, cuck, beta buck and etc etc was getting annoying.

Their envy of men that women gravitate towards was getting weird. They would try to imitate a certain type of guy instead of "being that guy". The hustlers making profit from their inexperience and naivety never sat well with me either.

Many of the figures heads also believed in "starving women of attention" I thought that was hilarious. Because they dick police more than anyone else.

Then there's the hypocrisy of the demands. As many aren't mentally ready for a long term, financially stable or struggling single father's themselves. But would be vocal against these preferences from the opposite end. Almost a projection of their insecurities

copious_cunnilingus · 2021-08-13T19:00:50+00:00

It's exhausting. Every part of your being is under the microscope. Most of the good is dismissed, and when you do bad... oooohh you know it. You're reminded of it too. You're never good enough.

Edit: Since I was raised very strict Catholic, this treatment was fairly normal.

RedPillDetox · 2021-08-13T20:39:15+00:00

Trying it out irl, approaching over 1000 women, barely getting laid and becoming the joke on campus because "alpha" and "frame"

SadBox4529 · 2021-08-13T20:32:10+00:00

I wasn’t really Redpill but I did listen to a lot of AMS. I tried to apply his theories in life but all I got was weird vibes from people and avoidance. Then AMS himself constantly contradicted himself. He said he only went for the 8’s,9’s and 10’s but dude was going for single mums who definitely weren’t that. He always spoke against taking girls on dates but his infields show him at expensive restaurants paying for “lobsters”.He also said if you have approach anxiety you’re a b**ch but this dude couldn’t even approach 1 white girl in a street full of females. Then came Fresh & Fit, but don’t get me started on those guys......

zoemondo · 2021-08-13T23:25:52+00:00

I grew up in a misogynistic household and my parents are semi-redpilled. I truly thought I had zero worth because I was born a girl.

Basically it gave me ptsd and made me depressed and suicidal. It took years of hard work to get my mental health back.

If redpill/similar beliefs are true, then why does it cause such mental distress in people? Why don't my parents have any friends? Why are they such miserable assholes? Why do they enable abuse?

If bluepilled liberals are idiots and are totally wrong in their beliefs, then why are all my liberal friends so much happier than my family? They're such better people to be around, generous and caring and fun. My mental health got better when I chose them as my family and cut out all of the assholes in my life.

If a belief system is true and provides a good system for people to live their lives by, the proof is in the pudding.

BiWomanHealing · 2021-08-13T21:43:26+00:00

Realized that RPW was basically just dressed up codependency. And RP men was narcissism.

Alternative-Tie-3837 · 2021-08-13T19:47:59+00:00

I didn't agree that single moms were undateable.

Soft-Neat8117 · 2021-08-13T20:49:23+00:00

I realized that it was not a reflection of reality and would only lead to a life of anger, depression, loneliness and hatred.

It was evident to me that these Red Pill gurus were miserable, misogynistic assholes no matter how much they tried to claim otherwise. Anyone who's truly satisfied with their lives isn't going to dedicate their lives to posting video after video saying how bad women are and how all non-Red Pill men are cucks, pussies, manginas, simps, etc.

It's just a dark tunnel with no light at the end. Red Pill says that you must improve your sexual market value if you want to be with a woman (not bad advice when taken on its own.) But it also says that all women are hypergamous gold diggers who are always looking to trade up. No matter how much you work out, there will always be men who are in better shape than you. No matter how attractive you are, there will always be men who are better looking than you. No matter how much money you make, there will always be men who make more. No matter how good you are in bed, there will always be men who are better. That's not a problem in and of itself. But when combined with the idea of women always looking to trade up, then it means that no woman you date will stay with you. Even celebrities, who have the highest SMVs in the world, still get divorced and cheated on. If they can't keep a woman, what chance does the average guy have?

Your only options are to either stop seeing women altogether or only do one night stands. I have no desire to engage in casual sex due to the risks of catching STDs or unplanned pregnancies. Many people in my family were conceived out of wedlock, including myself. I don't want to add to that, especially since I'm in no shape to raise a child right now. Plus, sex without connection is just masturbation with another body. It's temporary pleasure. Nothing changes. You're still the same person after sex as you were before. Real happiness doesn't come from short-term pleasure.

I've pretty much given up on ever being with a woman and have since my sophomore year of high school. I still have a small amount of hope that one day that may change, but I seriously doubt it unless I get rich and look for a gold digger or settle for someone I'm not attracted to. I'm so overweight that it will take at least a few years to get in shape. Even if I do get in shape, I'll never look like a fitness model because I'm covered in stretch marks and will inevitably have loose skin when I do lose weight. If I do want a partner, I'll probably have to lower my physical standards. I'll likely never be with a "hot" woman unless I pay for it. And I'd rather die a virgin than pay a prostitute for sex.

Self-pity aside, I've read lots of studies and seen lots of things that discredits most of what Red Pill says. They say that women only want the top 20% of men. Yet every couple I've seen in public were on roughly equal levels of attractiveness (or lack thereof). The closest I've seen to what Red Pill describes is seeing overweight women dating scrawny guys, but in my opinion, they're both on the same level in the sense that neither of them takes very good care of their bodies. If women only wanted the top percentage of men, then most men would die virgins, and many women probably would too since there aren't enough "high value" men to go around. The majority of people eventually find a partner. Incels are a very small (albeit very vocal) minority.

I could go on all day but I have a tendency to write long posts and it's quite tiresome. I'm still making an effort to change, but I'm doing it for me rather than to be with women.

Instead of wanting to lose weight and get in shape in order to attract women, I must do it for my health. My dad died relatively young due to conditions that were brought on by his bad diet, lack of exercise and excessive drinking (I don't drink, smoke or do any drugs) and I don't want to end up like him.

Instead of wanting to make a lot of money in order to attract women, I want to do it because being poor sucks and until we switch to socialism (I'm not a socialist, but I believe it will happen eventually.) that's the only way out of poverty. Not being able to do the things I want, hang out with the people I like or live where I want to live is making me far more miserable than not having sex or a girlfriend.

There's no "secret" to attracting women and taking these "pills" isn't healthy.

atman714 · 2021-08-13T20:32:48+00:00

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DissonanceBadger · 2021-08-14T13:36:00+00:00

I was exposed to the Red Pill when I was already sophisticated enough in my understanding to doubt it, however it took me a while to articulate why, which is why instead of ignoring it and moving on, I lingered and developed an interest in taking it apart. My instinctual reaction before I was able to put rings into words was that it was just way too adversarial.

ineedavacation4 · 2021-08-17T11:50:04+00:00

I examined what it was doing for my depression, suicidal thoughts, and everything else about me. I initially lost weight but gained some back. I’ve never been in shape, never been popular with women, bullied, never felt 100% masculine, and I always hated myself. TRP only amplified those feelings from women wanting men who are 100% perfect to placing men in “alpha” or “beta” boxes. It’s completely toxic.

ImpossibleChicken607 · 2021-08-20T12:02:33+00:00

I never knew about redpill until now what is it again?

Title	What made you exredpill?
Author	BlackVsilver
Upvotes	15
Comments	31
Date	August 13, 2021 6:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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