Am I overreacting?

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-02-09T12:47:11+00:00

Make sure he is blocked everywhere and then delete his number. He is not worth your time. He is a predator, plain and simple.

ironymaiden87 · 2020-02-09T13:08:47+00:00

No. You did the right thing. I only wish I'd done the same instead of letting someone just like that play me for years. Don't beat yourself up over it, he ain't worth shit.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-09T13:09:13+00:00

Were you sleeping together when you first met? It seems like he just played you to get what he wanted (power and ownership over you) and then just ditched you, and probably wanted you to chase him and be confused by him and run to him for validation.

I think you did the best thing you could do. I agree, block him on everything and don’t give him an inch if he tries to contact you ever again. He seems like a real user. Blowing hot and cold to keep you on edge and wondering what he thinks of you. Get rid for good! Well done on confronting him in a minimal way and deleting.

HighLife0001 · 2020-02-09T13:07:34+00:00

This is classic trash behavior from LVM. Move on and never look back. He’s a waste of your time and youth. Be with someone who treats you like the best thing that has ever happened to him. This dufus doesn’t give two shits about you

delicateearthbabe · 2020-02-09T13:32:03+00:00

Everything you did was justified.

2020-02-09T14:04:37+00:00

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aclumsygirl · 2020-02-09T16:23:15+00:00

Of course it was justified. He wanted out of the relationship and was too chickenshit to tell you. So he ignored you instead. Classic LVM behavior. Just cut him completely out of your life and move on.

In the future, don't entertain hot and cold behavior from a guy you're interested in. Nip it right in the bud. When he's cold, you ghost his ass.

ghygdryhchmmmmjj · 2020-02-10T05:52:59+00:00

So what he did is referred to as the silent treatment. It's not ok. At all. Block everywhere. There's nothing wrong with you its him.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-09T18:13:28+00:00

You should have dropped him a long time ago. Just the part where he was 20 and you were 17, or how about the part where he started getting closer to you once it was legal for him to have sex with you, or the part where he was hot and cold and off and on.

Overreacting is a label that men use to control women and keep us from prioritizing ourselves, having boundaries, demanding respect, and frankly, getting angry at dismissive, disrespectful or abusive behavior.

Ifoundnemofirst · 2020-02-09T15:29:58+00:00

The best thing you can do in this situation is to leave it alone. If you’re still tryna put it back together after 3 weeks of nothing he’ll be gassed up into thinking he’s amazing and you can’t let him go which will give him even more of a sense of power. I’ve been in the exact same spot and men will make it clear when they’re valuing you. Ghosting is super shitty but if you stayed with him he would only get worse and worse. The man who used to text you all the time and be great is just your best idea of him. People’s actions show their true intentions. Take it from me I’ve had the same situation happen and I was too blind to cut him off when I should’ve and wasted even more time. There’s always gonna be other men who will treat you better. If your sister or cousin or friend was in your position what would you think of them or tell them?

Trust yourself and know that you can do better. Block him on everything unless you’re strong enough to never answer his messages when you post cute photos.

Title	Am I overreacting?
Author	myabowman6
Upvotes	26
Comments	15
Date	February 9, 2020 12:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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