Do men even feel love?

LadyGrimes · 2020-11-22T02:37:00+00:00

I think with the early exposure of porn and them "pretending" to have sex with thousands of different women, they have been conditioned not to fall in love the way they would normally, so in other words porn has ruined their capability to bond with a real woman. And this is why they will not give up the porn for a real woman either, because they are bonded to the porn.

uselesssdata · 2020-11-22T02:32:52+00:00

I've never seen it, personally, but I'm open to the idea that some might feel genuine love. I think many of them just fall in "love" with whatever image of themselves their partner reflects back to them.

Fresh-Presentation76 · 2020-11-22T02:35:04+00:00

There are a lot of men who need therapy and will never get it and probably never actually love a woman. There are also men that are emotionally healthy and can love. I think accepting that you might never find one of those that you also mesh with romantically makes you less likely to suffer.

2020-11-22T02:25:48+00:00

The men that I’ve dated, even with their flaws, were not like this. I think if you vet them before sex, you’re able to usually avoid situations like this. I’m assuming this is more common with random hookups vs the relationships that FDS advocates. I think men feel love. I have seen men in my life love very deeply. Men can be very loyal and so wonderful, when they want to be. But just remember that even if he loves, that doesn’t guarantee that he will love you in the right way. It doesn’t matter how much he loves you if him “loving” isn’t how you want to be treated.

daisy_0720 · 2020-11-22T08:04:31+00:00

My Dad loves my Mom. He knew she was the woman he wanted to marry from the moment they met. He worked while she was a SAHM, and as soon as he could afford it, bought a second house in her name only because "she deserves something that's hers and I want her to be provided for when I'm gone." The rent for that house goes directly into her bank account and he doesn't see a penny of it. Whenever he sends me photos of the two of them on vacation together, they both look so happy; he's literally grinning from ear to ear. For as long as I can remember, he's always acted like he's lucky to have her and he knows it. So, definitely love I think.

Otherwise? Um...

*crickets*

PinkPetalCdistbeauty · 2020-11-22T02:10:46+00:00

Lol great last question!!!!

2020-11-22T03:24:44+00:00

They do, definitely. I’ve seen a few absolutely lose it when they couldn’t see their children due to alcoholism, former record etc.

But we honestly go through the same thing in different forms. Let me show you an example.

Some guy you’re in a relationship with. Could be six months, could be a few years. But as he zips up, you review the experience you’ve just had. Maybe you notice many experiences flooding back as you think about spending an X amount of time with this person that probably hits your disk like a drunken dj and it’s not such a good feeling after all. Do you want a lifetime of some guy with holes in his socks and a sheepish smile? You ponder.

Well, that’s how it was for me.

randomgirlimok · 2020-11-22T03:10:15+00:00

My ex- husband definitely loved me. But he had addictions

2020-11-22T10:12:54+00:00

Some of them say they're in love but they just love having power and control over you. It's usually an ego thing.

throwaway23004345 · 2020-11-22T03:49:24+00:00

Men aren’t capable of deep love and compassion the way women are.... they just aren’t built like that

fireforestfairy · 2020-11-22T04:47:53+00:00

I think some men do. I'm from Hong Kong and I've seen men who give almost all of their income to their wives to keep (and only keep a small proportion of it for their daily expenses). Doubt they would do that if they didn't love their wives.

Karthasis11 · 2020-11-22T11:34:02+00:00

No, I am lucky enough, that my husband really wants to cuddle and hold me after sex. In the beginning I thought that was weird... Brainwashing by media is strong.

Title	Do men even feel love?
Author	asteria2002
Upvotes	89
Comments	16
Date	November 21, 2020 6:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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