Hi ladies! So I started talking to this guy about a week ago. He messaged me on Facebook and we hit it off immediately. He is smart, fun, polite and seems very sincere/authentic. I think he might be a HVM but we haven’t met yet so hard to tell. We had a few phone calls so far (no FaceTime), but all of them were via Facebook messenger. And here’s the red flags that came up for me:

  1. Didn’t ask for my number. We only talk via Facebook messenger.
  2. Didn’t request to be friends on Facebook.
  3. Only messages/calls me during the work hours or after 10PM.
  4. We haven’t had video calls.
  5. He’s not trying to meet which makes sense with the COVID staff but video calls would be totally fine.

Which leads me to believe that he (let’s call him Rob) has a girlfriend, cause some things don’t add up. I really like him and really enjoy our conversations a lot which means I’ve started developing feelings for someone I’ve never met. I don’t want to invest more of my time into someone who’s just bored/cheating on his gf. I hang out with other guys (I’m a part of a pretty big cycling group) but Rob has been on my mind lately.

I guess it’d be helpful to know what do you ladies think and how would you tackle this - just ask him up front or? Wait?