Dr Karin discusses the question, 'What if I never find my person?'

hopewings · 2020-09-29T15:47:07+00:00

I asked myself that when I was young and left the ex of many years. I finally came to a frame of mind that I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than be stuck in a horrible relationship.

The mantra that got me through that time was the Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

The other quote that got me to where I am today is also a Bene Gesserit:

Confine yourself to observing and you always miss the point of your own life. The object can be stated this way: Live the best life you can. Life is a game whose rules you learn if you leap into it and play it to the hilt. Otherwise, you are caught off balance, continually surprised by the shifting play. Non-players often whine and complain that luck always passes them by. They refuse to see that they can create some of their own luck.

We as women are not just passive observers of our life. I believe that we can create some of our own luck, by being self-aware, working on ourselves and gaining knowledge.

EyezOnFyre · 2020-09-29T13:47:00+00:00

Thank you for posting this. The timing was scary accurate.

3alabali · 2020-09-29T14:54:19+00:00

This is so true. All settling does is guarantee you’ll never meet the right one for you.

Missybanana · 2020-09-29T17:37:22+00:00

She said, "If you're single now, your only option was to settle somewhere along the way, and you haven't done that." 🙏🥳❤️

good-day-throwaway · 2020-09-29T16:15:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm at the age where my social media feed is just wedding and pregnancy and baby photos, one after another, and it's so easy to get swept away with preoccupations about whether I'll find all of those things for myself or not. This helped to ground me and I'll be thinking of it when I need it.

killerjewels · 2020-09-29T15:10:36+00:00

I needed to hear this

ChristmasPriestess · 2020-09-29T16:18:01+00:00

I Dr. Karin so much!! Thanks for this post

Title	Dr Karin discusses the question, 'What if I never find my person?'
Author	Partypuppers
Upvotes	56
Comments	13
Date	September 29, 2020 1:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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