So it’s been a few months since I left NVM. I’ve been doing pretty well and wanted to kind of see what’s out there, so I changed the “men are trash” Lock Screen photo on my phone and put on my best attitude and started talking with this man who had shown interest but backed off when he learned I was married.

He was long distance so it seemed harmless enough. We have a lot of common interests, are in similar places in life and he had also been through a toxic relationship. I decided to not be as ruthless as FDS advices, because I wanted to see if it’s really as excessive as the critics say. Ladies, it is not.

By the end of a month this smart, mature, cerebral man was insulting me for not sending nudes, playing red pill mind games and using the knowledge that my ex was abusive to hurt me (he already knew that before we started talking romantically - I’m not telling the next guy shit). It was really crazy to me because his past relationship choices where arguably worse, but I didn’t use that against him. I’m not a fucking monster.

I even gave him time to realize he was being terrible and apologize, but he didn’t. So block, delete and lesson learned.

So even though I’m hesitant to throw out my rose colored glasses, thanks to FDS and other resources, I’m not settling for less than I deserve. Which is a lot. Because I’m delightful.

I hope all you lovelies out there have a wonderful week and don’t forget for a moment how excellent you are!