Future Queen!

FDS-GFY

June 6, 2021

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Title	Future Queen!
Author	FDS-GFY
Upvotes	1411
Comments	13
Date	June 6, 2021 4:53 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ntq3rp/future_queen/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/future-queen.781224 https://theredarchive.com/post/781224

[–]MilkMadeMeFDS Newbie 148 points149 points150 points 5 years ago* (11 children) | Copy Link

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[–]wepersistedThrowaway Account 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

We’re trying to thrive in a system that was created for men with stay at home wives. Men bosses are toxic abusers to their women subordinates, even if they don’t sexually harass them. I have so much trauma from corporate jobs, and unlike a bad relationship I couldn’t leave. The Girl Boss aesthetic is so far from the reality.

Amen, sister. I feel exactly the same way. I've been struggling with staying in my current career for this very reason. I've studied for years to enter a profession that is not only stressful on its own, but also dominated by aggressive, disrespectful, and egocentric LVM. At times, it feels worse than a romantic relationship. I feel trapped. I'm confident I could kick a scrote to the curb in a heartbeat; I can't imagine doing that with my job. At least, not yet.

[–]FDS-GFYFDS Newbie[S] 41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]MilkMadeMeFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]AnKeWaFDS Newbie 20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

What the hell am I supposed to do then?

I want to help women in my industry, especially queer, disabled, and POC women. I want them to not have to suffer through the same bullshit that I did.

This is only possible if I get into positions of power, where I decide who will be employed, who gets the pay raise, who gets assigned to the prestige projects.

Am I supposed to just wait until some magical karma force comes along that abolishes capitalism and makes everything right?

My folks, women like me, are suffering RIGHT NOW, and I am not abandoning my moral system over it, but do you have any idea how hard it is if you do that?

I am under constant fire from everyone, and I am really tired of hearing that I am somehow a bad person for trying to fight that fight, especially from other feminists.

Sorry for being like that, I had an extremely rough day. I am just tired. But if you have smarter ideas, then please, please share them.

You have a right to be angry. It is a non-stop cycle of bullshit. And clearly you care with all your heart and soul and know that the “status quo” is not good enough. How to effect actual lasting change? How to make people see others unlike them as actual human beings? How to get people out of their comfort zone even know they know the system that comforts them oppresses others? God God, I wish I fucking knew. Change doesn’t seem to come fast enough for our lifetimes, or at all. I don’t lose hope overall, but there are days I fucking do. Or have.

I fought and realized I was losing myself in the process. I was hospitalized for malnutrition and beyond because of the stress of fighting. I couldn’t fight alone in my corporation. I was the only one standing up. I reported everything illegal to “appropriate entities.” But of course nothing happened. Will something happen in the future? Who knows. I pray so. All I know is that in that moment, I had to give up that fight to survive. I will not give up in the long fight, but in the moment, I had to.

I feel that when we band together and demand respect, we can collectively shoulder the heavy weight each of us bears. That means being willing to take on extra weight for the sake of what is right. I’m not sure how many fiscally-driven entities or individual people in this world are willing to do that.

I admire your hard work and dedication. I am sure you have worked your ass off thanklessly or unseen by so many. There are people you have moved so deeply or changed forever also. I hang onto those situations, however small, where I know what I did was morally just. I wish I had more of a tangible, actionable route to offer you, but the truth is, I don’t know. I care about you and respect who you are. Thank you for your honesty and sharing a part of your story.

[–]AcadiaLeather5071Ruthless Strategist 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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