How fancy should a first date be?

MelatoninNightmares · 2020-01-03T20:03:46+00:00

Personally, I think that would be fine, as long as it's not some tacky chain/family restaurant. No first dates at Applebee's. But if it's some kind of interesting local place, that would be fine with me.

nruthh · 2020-01-03T20:02:59+00:00

What’s your preference? Your compatibility?

I don’t like fancy restaurants. I prefer casual. A high effort date is one where he pays attention to you, is generous with his time, money, and attention; where he chose a place you’d like and asks you questions and answers yours. The venue’s price range is very low on the list of things that make a good first date, with exceptions being things that are obviously low effort, like fast food or fast-casual.

I know this sub frowns on coffee dates, but I love coffee dates.

gursky0 · 2020-01-03T20:02:46+00:00

I'm ok with casual, but not chain restaurant or cheap Chinese takeout casual. The vast majority of restaurant where I live are pretty casual, there are few fine dining spots.

lyricthesecond · 2020-01-03T20:33:47+00:00

Depends on what you're into and what you want out of the relationship. If he suggests Olive Garden and you love their all you can eat pasta & breadsticks, then go for it.

Personally, I'm an adventurous eater, so if he's the type who only picks restaurants that serve burgers and chicken tenders, then we've got a compatibility issue.

2020-01-03T20:24:13+00:00

I prefer casual, as long as it isn't fast food. Upscale is what I'm forced to do by my family, so it makes me uptight and the other person wouldn't get a good idea of my personality.

quaintlyspoken · 2020-01-03T20:39:26+00:00

I have never been comfortable with dinner dates but while I prefer something more casual I always go for the fancy date. I can't romantically respect a guy who does not want to or can't take me to an upscale restaurant dates.

Whateverrr_345 · 2020-01-03T21:42:10+00:00

With a friend- Applebee's, fast food, local deli store, etc. (Never for a date)

With a date- bistro, casual restaurant, etc. Maybe fancy if that's his thing

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-03T19:37:40+00:00

If a guy takes me to a casual restaurant I'm going to order a cocktail, appetizer and dessert for sure in addition to the entree.

Title	How fancy should a first date be?
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Date	January 3, 2020 4:06 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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