I think this is a good reference.

vitryolic · 2020-11-22T21:34:30+00:00

Such 👏🏼 Good 👏🏼 Advice 👏🏼

Number 4 really hit me. I often thought I’d be better as just friends with my LVM ex, but once the blinkers of attraction were taken away, I realised he was a worthless, abusive, narcissist who didn’t deserve my friendship or any part of my energy.

Therapy Pro Tip for Getting Over a LVM: Visualise what his ugly personality would look like in human form every time you miss the attraction or sexual chemistry. My ex was objectively very good looking, but a creepy, mouth-breathing, neckbeard type inside, who would use Reddit and porn instead of human connection, because no one wanted to be around him in RL.

DelicateDream · 2020-11-22T22:25:43+00:00

7 is good. If you can’t accept a behavior now then pass on the relationship. It won’t get better. I remember reading that committing to a relationship means choosing a set of problems that will never fully go away. There’s no fully compatible person to you (and someone just like you would irritate you in other ways). You have to decide what conflicts you’re willing to engage in repeatedly because of fundamental differences in personality. Edit - sorry for formatting glitch, lol

LadyKaitlyn · 2020-11-23T00:44:58+00:00

I saw this on the front page earlier and thought it was funny how everything from FDS is on there.

MySonderStory · 2020-11-23T03:24:27+00:00

All this advice is gold. I think the main advice that is reflected in all the tips is to try and pull yourself out of the dating bubble since love causes changes to your brain due to the dopamine and oxytocin high of being in love and the strong bond that is created. That's why they call the feeling of being in love equivalent to an addiction.

I always try to think of it as, if my best friend was in the relationship instead of myself and asking me for advice, what would I be saying to my best friend? Would I approve of the relationship or of the man? If the answer is no for anything, then I need to think about whether he is someone worth having in my life (which means no).

MargotteL · 2020-11-22T23:13:22+00:00

I'm saving this!

Niceforwhatthrowaway · 2020-11-23T03:51:38+00:00

I agree with all of this but number 3 sticks out the most.

My co-worker rarely reciprocates. So I’ve stopped trying to get her attention. It’s sad, because I really like her, but it’s time to move on.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2020-11-23T00:53:07+00:00

Took a screenshot! Thank you

Bacheegs · 2020-11-23T04:28:55+00:00

This is perfect. I feel like this isn't the norm and that the norm is so toxic. It's sad.

Title	I think this is a good reference.
Author	LuxLeafBud
Upvotes	443
Comments	16
Date	November 22, 2020 9:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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