If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:

DxMePls · 2019-11-01T18:28:06+00:00

Okay, I see there's some controversy here regarding this post, let me put some more things into perspective

(Experienced FDS-ladies, please correct me or add to the conversation if any of this is wrong; anyone else - please feel free to debate this, i'd like to see how everyone thinks):

If you see your self as and a HVW and are in fact a HVW, all of what I said in the original post applies to you.
- You do have many suitors at once
- there are multiple men chasing after you
- men know that unless they are great in many aspects, or propose a nice restaurant for dinner, you will probably ignore them and not entertain their conversation
HVM will not see you as a gold-digger or low value for the expectation that they have to put in some effort for you to notice them (via. picking a good place to go, paying on first date).
- They do not shy away from challenges.
- They'd be happy and more grateful that the effort they put in paid-off in being able to win the affection of a HVW
- They understand the concept of "nothing that's worth it comes easy, and nothing that comes easy is worth it"

Edit: no matter how high value you are, if you demean yourself and tolerate low-effort, you will be seen as low value and be treated as such (this is not specifically regarding "who's paying", but a FDS principle in general)

DxMePls · 2019-11-01T14:48:08+00:00

EVEN if you're making more money, here's why:

You think men will be asking for Bella Hadid to pay half? No, he would be insecure that Bella Hadid is making so much, and even MORE so trying to pay to show her that he's not a weak-link. He would in fact INSIST to pay because he's embarrassed about looking cheap in front of B.H.
You think he's ever ask Bella Hadid to "meet him half way"? No, he'd take an airplane to get the privilege of even spending one hour with her.
You think he'd ever make Bella Hadid second guess where she stands in the relationship? NO way! He knows that if Bella Hadid saw that he's losing interest, she has millions of other options and fun things to do - she literally doesn't need his dusty @55.
You think he'd ever neg Bella Hadid? Heck no - Bella Hadid knows where she stands in society and knows that he ain't sh!t and can see through that insecure weak attitude

The point of this is to say: If he is really interested in you, he would chase you. If not, he's just wasting your time.

kumquat_fds · 2019-11-01T14:59:47+00:00

Also, you already paid. For your hair, makeup, skincare, outfit, etc. to look nice for him. You played your role, now he has to.

rad_daphne · 2019-11-01T15:16:41+00:00

Why the heck should you have to pay when there's >10men trying to take you out on dates

Because 99% of those are worthless moids that have no business dating anyone.

I honestly don't get this, high value men are also hot commodities and they sure as hell know it.

My last crush is a freaking forest firefighter and he has women throwing themselves at him.

How do you apply FDS advice when a guy has other options? :(

rainisthelife · 2019-11-01T20:54:21+00:00

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throwawway2091 · 2019-11-01T15:04:58+00:00

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Liz_Lemondrop · 2019-11-01T17:08:25+00:00

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trouble_ · 2019-11-01T18:12:27+00:00

I like to lurk in their manoshere subs. The debate over who pays on the first date has become practically comical at this point.

If a man thinks you're using him or leeching off him because this expectation is there... Then he will never respect you or invest in family life. He is just hoping for a casual sexual relationship he can walk away from when he chooses.

Title	If you ever feel awkward and forget why the man should be PAYING on dates:
Author	DxMePls
Upvotes	11
Comments	45
Date	November 1, 2019 2:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dq52eh/if_you_ever_feel_awkward_and_forget_why_the_man/
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