What is integrity? Google says integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral up rightness. To have integrity, one has to be self aware as well as sincere with themselves and how they react to the world around them. I consider this trait as the most important trait I look for in a man.

When vetting someone, I check to see how well their words fit their actions because that’s integrity. I don’t care if a man talks about how much he cares for the world. I care more about the man who volunteers or helps people in need or gives without expecting anything in response. I care about the men who don’t need to be praised for their good actions.

I’ve noticed a lot of men lack integrity just by the way they talk. A lot will appear a certain way in public because of social awareness but make disgusting jokes, coerce their partners, and emotionally abuse those that love them in private. The smart ones will keep up an act of integrity until they feel they have you, but luckily the majority of men are not that smart.

How a man treats you when he thinks he has you shows his integrity. Whether that’s when you define you’re relationship, get engaged, or get pregnant, if he begins to act crass or abusive in general, there’s your answer. As a HVW you need to have integrity because that is what will save you when the mask slips.

Even if it has been 10 years, you’ll still be able to leave immediately because your moral compass is that strong. No matter how painful the situation, you’ll have your integrity to fall back on. While I personally don’t believe HV people can become LV, bad judgement happens to all of us. That is why you need to make sure you also have your integrity in tact. A woman with integrity is a powerful woman. Always make sure the people you surround yourself with have this trait.