We’ve been dating for two years. I know very well that this person is manipulative and uses guilt tripping many times but not sure whether what he did today is gaslighting.

Lately it feels like this person is really bored and uninterested in our relationship so i sent a text asking about that. He said you’ve been doing the same thing.

I started to explain why i’ve been feeling this way. The reason is that he doesn’t make any effort to communicate with me in a healthier way. He just asks what i’m doing or how i am and disappears.

I mentioned that i find it weird when he has nothing to talk about all day long. He ignored everything else and kept blaming me because this one time i told him i have nothing to say after he kept replying with ‘yeah’ and the conversation was going nowhere.

After blaming me, he sent me a screenshot of something that didn’t have anything to do with the argument. He disappeared constantly from the argument which lead to unresolved issues.

I kept telling him what i’ve been feeling and i sent him a screenshot of something he posted because that was disrespectful to me. Once again, he completely ignored what i said and replied with ‘the post was just a joke’.

When i mentioned that he was ignoring what i’m saying he said ‘if you think throwing accusations at me will make things better i’m not sure about that’. He even said that i’m trying to make him feel guilty which wasn’t my intention at all. He asked what the point of this fight is when i made it clear from the beginning.

I’ve been feeling really bad because of this. I’ve told him to be more communicative but nothing has changed so far. That’s why i felt the need to bring it up again. I don’t believe i attacked him or said something that i shouldn’t have said. I keep thinking that maybe i’m doing this the wrong way but am i though?