It’s basic stuff really

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-23T02:03:54+00:00

Yeah they don't tell you because they don't care.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-02-23T04:17:15+00:00

Sometimes I have to pull up the FDS handbook post about how texting is the lowest possible effort thing. It really is so small, especially as a man infatuated with you WILL show it. If he doesn't, then he's not interested or he lacks initiative. Not sexy.

GlitterLoveAngel · 2020-02-23T02:10:34+00:00

Seriously. It’s not that hard.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-23T04:49:06+00:00

Yep! My ex used to not communicate. So I would actually bring it up and explain that I don’t mind what he’s doing, I just need communication. It would end with him doing the same thing over again the next week. Now I realise he just didn’t give a fuck and thought I would stay with him and cop his shit, no matter what. Boy bye.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-23T07:55:38+00:00

Lol communication is so haaaard when you have so many plates spinning 😂👌🤡🌎

120492ksj · 2020-02-23T06:53:28+00:00

I remember that I have a male friend who always reminded me this. He'll message me first thing in the morning when he wakes up (like around 5 am) with a long ass message greeting me a good morning, hoping I have a good day, and saying "I'll be busy for the whole day (insert WHY) so I might not be able to reply to you but feel free to message me anything you feel like telling me I promise I'll call you and reply to you when I get back home."

And he always DELIVERED. It's not that HARD!!! While my BF (now ex) just ignores me and messages me the following morning or whenever he feels like. I'm honestly grateful to my friend for upping my communication standards that time. IDK if he's interested in me or just a decent guy. Who knows.

Dimethylchlorine · 2020-02-23T04:44:33+00:00

Oh my god. Little things like this really do go a long way.

flyodpink · 2020-02-23T14:21:33+00:00

The fact that this post is on a female only sub is alarms me about how men are. With my limited experience with men , I've seen this a lot. They don't text a lot. If u point it out , they'll tell they were super busy.

But why won't they text that they were busy in the first place? Why wait for me to point it out and make it look like I was being insecure??

I text horribly , m myself not a timely replier. All I do is tell how busy I am without making the other person go bonkers !

umbralgarden · 2020-02-23T13:53:36+00:00

This would require "planning ahead" which we've already established from other threads that men can't even do when they need to eat- aka perform a basic human need for themselves by picking a restaurant (not Pizza Hut) or cooking themselves.

paintingrace · 2020-02-23T03:16:27+00:00

I literally just dumped my boyfriend 2 hours ago because of this. He told me that was just "how he was" when work was busy and that I could call him whenever (and do all the emotional legwork for our relationship.) BOY BYE!

flyodpink · 2020-02-23T14:21:52+00:00

The fact that this post is on a female only sub is alarms me about how men are. With my limited experience with men , I've seen this a lot. They don't text a lot. If u point it out , they'll tell they were super busy.

But why won't they text that they were busy in the first place? Why wait for me to point it out and make it look like I was being insecure??

I text horribly , m myself not a timely replier. All I do is tell how busy I am without making the other person go bonkers !

kellygreen_7 · 2020-02-23T16:51:17+00:00

My HVM does this and also has his iPhone's "Find my Friends" enabled for me. It was his idea.

Title	It’s basic stuff really
Author	jesza09
Upvotes	414
Comments	24
Date	February 23, 2020 1:57 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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