KickHimOut2020

indeelirium

November 28, 2019

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Title	KickHimOut2020
Author	indeelirium
Upvotes	3058
Comments	41
Date	November 28, 2019 2:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/e2rfhk/kickhimout2020/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/kickhimout2020.687837 https://theredarchive.com/post/687837

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My mom straight-up told me in high school that once I turned 18 I was never allowed to live at home again. And it hasn't always been easy, but I figured out how to avoid that. So someone who has parents still caring for them at 30 is never gonna have the same kind of perspective on life as I do. They may not be a bad person, but there is a certain kind of immaturity inherent in that imo.

Now my boyfriend lived with his mom until he was 26, but that situation was more the other way around. They were immigrants and when he was 16 he started working full time and going to school full time so he could help his mom pay rent. He then did that for 10 years so he wouldn't lose legal immigrant status before he got full rights to work without being a student. He still helps his mom out with some of her bills while paying his student loans. That's impressive as fuck, imo...

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Agree. Some may be living with their moms due to deathbed promises.

Some are there due to religion. As in the bachelors stay living at home til they are married. Some are living at home to increase their bank accounts in order to move out once married.

I know of one such dude. His situation is a deathbed promise. Unfortunately for him. His mom won't move out until he is married. He refuses to get married til she moves out. Thing is, as I mentioned. His dad died when he was in his late teens. And made my friend to live at home to help out his mom. He is now fifty six years old. And will most likely never get married. Which is ironic. His dad kept trying for a son to carry on the family name. The guy is the youngest out of five. The other four are girls. And my friend is not passing on his name due to the situation.

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absolutely- you need to take note of whether they help around the house and keep their own rooms tidy and organised. A LOT of men living at home still get way too comfy, aren't actually saving money, live like a slob and are just trying to extend their childhoods well into their late 20s...its too tempting for them if their mother is smothering them still. I would be very hesitant to get serious with a man like that because a lot of times they are looking at you to be their replacement mommy

women that have lived out for at least a few years are already in the routine of keeping a home running & understand financial planning better- if he has not learnt that yet or done it for a few years at least you are coming at totally different angles. I mean half the time they aren't paying full rent/bills to their parents either- so they still aren't dealing with the adult reality of things- and if they aren't actually putting that spare money into something useful, like a deposit, Its clear hes just avoiding adulthood. Ideally I would expect a man to be moved out and totally independent by 28 unless they are studying for a masters or something. I think its genuinely embaressing when men are still living at home in their 30s- don't you want any privacy regarding your sex/love life? When is he gonna move out-38?

the reason being- women are generally far more cleaner and house trained than men....so if you're dating a guy that has never moved out & he is of age...good luck with that because chances are you will be picking up where his mum left off

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