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Learn to recognize the signs

myaccountiscool

June 21, 2020

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Title	Learn to recognize the signs
Author	myaccountiscool
Upvotes	196
Comments	31
Date	June 21, 2020 10:13 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hdfq26/learn_to_recognize_the_signs/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/learn-to-recognize-the-signs.698547 https://theredarchive.com/post/698547

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The older I get, the more I see how messed up the world is towards women. Who am I to blame a woman for falling for some guy’s bullshit? Yeah insecure women do it. Women with low self-esteem do it, but how can I blame them for having low self-esteem and being insecure? Most of the time it’s not their fault, and they’re having a hard time dealing with it anyway.

It reminds me of a conversation I had years ago with a friend. I criticized someone, I don’t even remember who or why, and my friend defended them. I replied that they deserved the criticism for being weak. My friend then said “You can’t blame someone for being weak, it’s not like they chose to be”. In one sentence, she reminded me to have some empathy.

PS: I’m mad that the main comment is focused on calling women in such affairs “LVW”, when the meme is about a dude in a relationship having an emotional affair.

Talking about the woman involved should be secondary. It’s the dude who should be criticized.

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I get where you're coming from. I do know some women who are out there to get other people's men tho. They told me it's nicer to be the side chick because you get the good gifts and the fun times instead of the hard times.

Also, when my ex fiance cheated on me with his ex girlfriend, she tried to 'take him away from me'. When he confessed to her he made a mistake and wanted to stay with me, she called me up. Told me everything and said 'If I can't have him, you can't either'. And she wanted me to be buddies and get revenge on him. She is a model and knows a lot of celebs, so she wanted to introduce me to the clubbing scene because she knew he would go beserk (very jealous). Also she wanted me to give his credit card number so she could get revenge. When I told them both off, she got mad at me because I was 'being selfish'.

I do think that kind of behaviour is low value behaviour. Is there another way how we could describe it? Because I do feel it's good to have some terms for behaviour we shouldn't indulge in.

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