I like this guy, everything on paper is great except he’s only 4-5 months out from ending his previous 10 year long forevergf relationship. I think he is feeling feelings he hasn’t felt for a looooong time with me now, or ever, so he says. We’ve only been dating for a few weeks though… it’s too soon, which we both say and agree on. We agreed not to have sex until I am ready, whether that’s weeks or years. There are so many more green flags than red flags, but sometimes I wonder if it’s just overwhelming for him to meet me when he’s admittedly in a pretty bad time in his life when he moved back home with his parents after the breakup and started a new job after his highly stressful one.

I think he’s insecure about his appearance and his self. He says things like “holy shit you’re way out of my league” and “you’re too hot for me” and has even said he loves me / is crazy about me… That he would be crushed if it doesn’t work out etc… but he will mitigate by being totally fine with me putting my boundaries in place and saying I’m not there yet…

I’m just confused at what to do at this point… should I break it off or keep it going slow? If he wasn’t so fresh out of his last relationship and told me he “wasn’t expecting to meet” me on OLD and was just messaging ppl without expectations of it going anywhere when we clicked … then I don’t think I’d mind having a fast emotional bond since it really is a good match on paper I think. We make about the same, we’ve talked about the big things like whether we want kids, how we’d split finances in ideal relationship, whether he’d support a person going through health stress… physical compatibility issues cleared (he’s not a big porn watcher and doesn’t put the physical at the top of his list of needs / is ok when I say no)

I posted on askfds but it is still waiting approval from mods, I’m sorry for double it up here I just need some help from people who have been further down the road here to see what others think about the red flag / green flag ratio … is it too soon after his last relationship? Would you block and delete and say goodbye? Would you give it time and keep putting up the boundaries knowing he would probably say ok if I let it go fast? Just curious to hear what y’all think