Over the past few years, as I learned to level up, I developed a rule for vetting that I now strictly follow: I expect a partner, not a project. If a guy can't provide for me in at least the same way that I can provide for myself, what good is he?

And this applies to every aspect of life — financially, emotionally, physically, etc. I don't need a man to take care of me, but I'm looking for someone who wants to take care of me. Otherwise, I'm lowering my standards and opening myself up for potential exploitation.

And how did I come to this realization? I invested in myself. Although I always strive to improve, I've been fortunate enough to achieve quite a bit. I have two degrees with high honors, along with a successful career that has provided me with financial stability. I have no debt, am a homeowner, and recently upgraded my car. None of this would have been possible if I prioritized loving a man over loving myself.

Ladies, please never compromise your goals or position in life for a guy. Focus on yourself above all. Apply for every scholarship out there, study diligently in school, pursue a career that ignites your passion, and reflect on what makes you truly content.

Now that I have more free time in my schedule, I've started to actively date. I have prepared myself to hold the highest of standards. I believe strongly in the benefits of multi-dating. I refuse to embrace the "girlfriend" label — this, like male attention, means nothing to me. I will never have a boyfriend. I only have suitors until I find a man who actually makes marriage look appealing.

As a result, I maintain strong boundaries and strict standards. The bare minimum does not impress me. I expect more. A man can't just be nice. He needs to be kind, sincere, and empathetic, to the point where he advocates for our relationship over everything else. Is he employed? Big deal; so am I. He needs to make at least as much as I do and provide enough to take care of both of us. Otherwise, what's the point? Even if a guy has endless affluence, if he still shows no generosity, he's useless trash. I don't intend to waste my time feeding some scrote's ego. Thank you, next.

Never feel embarrassed for wanting more than the bare minimum. I promise that you're not asking for too much. Scrotes feel entitled to the whole world, despite the fact that their greatest accomplishment is merely existing.

You deserve everything, queens. You deserve to put yourself first. You deserve to find someone who enriches your life instead of diminishing it. You deserve a partner, not a project.